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anonymous
writes:I have been friends wit this girl for over 2 year and for the last year i am so clear on how i feel about her . she is all i seem to think about. I have told her i care about her deeply as more than a friend her response to this was i have been hurt so many times and dose not see any one in that way at the moment . So after i told her as long as she was a big part of my life i would not be able or want to move on so i asked her to cut contact as we used to talk bout 50 times a day from morning til night by text and tell each other every thing . She agrees to this as she says she cares about me and knows its hard but she only stays out of contact for about 2 weeks and its back to square 1 and because i miss her i make myself believe i can forget my feelings but it never works and this has happened 6 times and it always goes back to square 1 . She is a nice girl but does not have many friends that she trusts completely . I no i should not listen to my friends but they asume theres something going on between us because of the way i look at her and the way she is with me. What should i do this time i would be very thankful for any advice
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reader, CottonCandy19  +, writes (6 September 2010):
In life, sometimes people have this friendship they cherrish so much.It is so valuable to them that they don't want anything to ruin it, but when u told her how you feel, maybe she just thinks it's not the best way to go. U might not understand this, but don't u think a relationship cud ruin a beautiful friendship? She trusts u and she cares a whole lot to actually tell u everything. Maybe wat she wants is just a really close friendship because if the both of u went into a relationship, but then if it never works out, there'll be this awkward moment and it's really hard to stay friends like usual after that. Try asking her. I hope it helps =)
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reader, shania  +, writes (6 September 2010):
 You have told her how you feel...you couldn't make it any clearer if you tried,she just wants to be friends with you..She has made that pretty clear too but your hoping she will change her mind and start to have real, strong feelings for you but i think after 2 years your on a no winner here.
Have you dated anyone in between? I probably think you haven't because you are in limbo with this woman....but you are putting your life on hold for her...You will have a very long wait. If you cant accept her friendship then i think for your own emotional well being then you should stop all contact..seriously....If she contacts you after a couple of weeks you should ignore her...Yes, i know it will be hard but you have hanged in there for far too long...most fellas would of given up by now. Please dont be fooled in the way she looks at you...it means nothing to her...she is playing with you...she loves the admiration you have for her but thats all it is...it boosts her ego. Let her go.
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reader, chat offline  +, writes (6 September 2010):
shes just not that into you. she sees you more as a friend.
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