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*oatinggirl
writes:me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (30 July 2008):
 You can use condoms until you turn 18, at which time you'll be able to take yourself to the doctor's. Did you tell your doctor that you are sexually active?
You can also visit this website to see if you can find a clinic on your own.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
Good luck, and I do hope that you can find a way to communicate the need for you to visit the doctor to your mother.
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (30 July 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirst of its not underage sex the consent age is 17 hear and i am 17 and i have already taken the hpv shot and my mom won't take me to the doctor for birth control
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): So your parents were right, and you went behind their back and had underage sex. That's why I don't trust teenagers, because if you give them a inch, they'll take a mile. Don't tell them anything, if you do, you'll never see him again. MAKE SURE YOU USE A CONDOM each and everytime and you'll never have a reason to explain to your parents that your having underage sex. Sorry, but your parents are dumb. They never should have trusted you because you don't deserve it. Two months and your already screwing arround, I wonder what you'll be doing next year and the year after that....... I hate stupid parents that love their kids too much and want to be their friends. Your lucky, because your parents are exactly that type.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 July 2008):
Interesting way to repay their trust.
Just tell them that you need to see a gynecologist because you are now sexually active. You should see if the vaccine for preventing some HPV strains is something that would be a good idea for you too.
Take care.
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (25 July 2008):
Boatinggirl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok well we are alowed to sleep in the same room and they cheak in thanks for th help another question is well me and him have been haveing sex alot and we use a condom but how do i tell my parents?
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reader, DuncanGreen +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Perhaps you can come to a compromise with your parents. I saw this movie called, "The Patriot." In it, Heath Ledger plays the role of a strapping young lad who has joined the militia. Meanwhile, he also has a love interest in a young woman, whom he spends the night with. However, prior to leaving them alone in the same bed for the night, her parents tied him up (perhaps with lock and key, I don't recall) into a hybrid of a potato sack and a straight jacket. Hence, we come to our Solution: You or your parents need to get him a straight jacket, which they can remove the next morning. See how easy that was.
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reader, Kourts_09 +, writes (1 July 2008):
well i got to tell u as u know that does seem wrong. on many levels. but im in that situation as wells. my bf is staying with me over summer, we arent allowed to sleep in the same bed either. but we do share a room. but i got to tell u alot of ppl think that is wrong. and u need to respect ur parents choice. and idk how old u are, but i think its wrong to sleep in the same bed anyways. my bf is here, but we sleep in 2 beds. also if u want ur parents to trust u more, maby prove to them that they can
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reader, no_issues +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Sleep in different rooms, obviously.
If you lack the stealth to sneak into each others' beds in the middle of the night, then you aren't ready for sex. Try training in night-time commando exercises for a while instead, and see if that improves your game.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Respect your parents of course. Why should they allow you to sleep in the same room as him, you are not married, your are under age and still live in their house. You need to respect their rules.
I was 22 when I married my first husband and yes its a different generation but I was never allowed to share a bed with him in parents house and wouldnt have wanted to (40 in a few weeks).
My daughter is 16 and is legally allowed to have sex as we are in the uk, Whilst I probably wouldnt be as strict as my parents I certainly wouldnt want her sleeping with her boyfriend in my house whether I trusted her or not. Yes maybe when she is 19-20 and brings a steady long term boyfriend back from university then I might consider it but not under the circumstances you are talking about.
It is hard for you but one day when you are a parent and a lot older and wiser you will understand that they only have your best interests at heart x
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reader, soulcal +, writes (30 June 2008):
 well your parents are just thinking of you and dont want you to get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2008): Whoever pays the bills gets to make the rules. They don't want him sleeping in your bed, well that's the way it is. Your lucky at least they let him in the house. It's way to early for you to even consider sharing a bed, you've only been going out with this guy for a month. Why does he need to sleep in your bed anyway, is he sick, is he homeless. Your parents are totally right, tell your young man to go home and go to bed whenever he feels tired and sleepy.
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