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writes:Hi guys for the past year i have been interested in this woman, we had been flirting around each other for ages and both of us really liked each other but never said it. So i decided to write to her and i told her how much i liked her and wanted to be with her, but after writing the letter i never made another move on her and never showed to her how i really felt, i think i was afraid of rejection, i sent her a few text messages that she never replied too, and completely ignored her one night because of that which i regret to this day. I was very insecure at the time and it was like i needed some form of feedback from her even though i knew she was interested from the beautiful smiles she used to give me etc, she had my number and i was hoping she would make contact but didnt, i sent her roses and choclates a while later but this did not impress her one bit. We now salute each other when we meet but thats it, but the problem is that i am still crazy about her and cant stop thinking about her, she is still single what should i do, i know i have to show her that i really do want to be with her but i am probably too late, what should i do???
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reader, shania  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Then you have answered your question....your wasting your time with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe is three years younger than me, i know it is a complete joke, i am going to talk too her once more and see what her problem actually is, and then that is that.I was talking too her friend at thr start of all this and she told we that she was a very tough nut to craic, i would go as far as impossible, and no need for it at all, i think i have been treated very harshly in all this. Any normal person would have walked away ages ago, but she is someone i have always had a flame for, but i honestly have never dealt with anyone so stubborn and selfish.
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reader, shania +, writes (4 June 2010):
Its all hit and miss, isn't it? She's too much like hard work.I get the impression that she will only go out with you if you get down on bended knees and kiss her feet...or jump off a cliff...give her a million pounds etc.Its ridiculous.Your jumping through hoops with her and she still isn't delivering.Aren't you bored with it all? Im looking at your age status and it says your in your 30's so is she the same age roughly? If she is then she is acting like a teenager and not a grown woman.Who needs mind games? All you want is a straight answer....Right, this is what you do...You ask her out, you say you want to date her, build a relationship with her...cut to the chase...you want answers...If she says no..im not interested or she's dithering then you walk away...You dont make anymore contact again...no emails..no texts...no phone calls..NOTHING...You go cold turkey...Then once she realises that you have lost interest in her then she might...just might show an interest with you and hopefully start having a proper relationship with you...but its a long shot.I think if someone wants to be with you then there's no messing about..they make it pretty clear to you and the rest is history...At the moment your in limbo..your life is on hold because of her....Dont let her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTheres more though, she made contact with me shortly after we had met, asking me would i be going out and to the local nite club that nite but didnt say who it was, this had happened 2 me before and it had been my friends playin a prank pretending to be a woman haha so i replied a few times not knowing who it was and then she didnt reply anymore. She was out the following weekend and i saw her pointing me out to one of my friends and hers, and i approached later that nite and we had a few words but there were nerves there and i daid something stupid and she left a bit upset, i was in college at the time so i wasnt at home every weekend and didnt see her for a few months, and then the night of my birthday we met again and we chatted, she had seen me earlier and i had gotten a few birthday kisses from a few of my lady friends, she told that she was not impressed with how i was going up kissing everyone i saw and was a bit mad about it, but we chatted away and i told her how much i liked her and wanted to be with her, and she didnt say she didnt like me, but then next weekend i went to chat to her again and she said she didnt even remember seeing me the previous weekend, the irish and alcohol please dont tell me i know, so i was a bit takin aback by that, so i decided to write to her and put what i was feeling down on paper, i made promises in the letter that i was going to do everything i could to show her how much see meant to me, but i never did keep those promises, and after a few months then i got another message, hi,XXXX did i get something in the mail from you?? it was after that i sent the roses and choclates which i knew was a bit late, soon after that i spoke with her i knew she was mad with me, i asked her did she have anymore interest in me, and she said i hate to say it too you now but i dont, and labeled me as desperate for sending the roses and chocs, so things were kind of left like that, there are more bits and pieces to the story, i had planned to move to australia after i had finished college in may, and she knew that, so that probably didnt help with the whole thing, i never ended up going in the end, damn world recession.
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reader, shania +, writes (3 June 2010):
This woman is loving the attention you are giving her...but thats it,she doesn't want anything else.You said that you have known her for a year,that you have sent her a heart felt letter,you gave her flowers and chocolates,you flirted with her...YET she still hasn't done anything about it.Your flogging a dead horse here,she is a tease.If she was interested in you then she would of told you...what else do you have to do to make it any clearer to her? You must forget about her otherwise you are missing out on a woman who is out there and would love to be your girlfriend.Please dont waste anymore time on her.
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