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writes:Hi ! I have a bf of almost 5 years. He is a hard worker he is funny and has a great family . We use to live together but we couldn't afford it so we both moved back to our patents. My dad and him don't get along so he isn't aloud at my house. He works from 4am to 2pm . I work from 8am to 6 pm or 3 pm to 12 am. So we don't get to see each other very often. On my days off I wait for him to get home and we hang out at his house. That's twice during the week he don't work weekends but that's when I work the most! He thinks I am never at work he thinks I am out with other guys ! But I am always at work I work 45 to 58 hrs a week. And I always have him call me at wOrk so that way he can't day I'm not at work. Well the problem Is he always says we are going to go do things and at the last minute he changes things when I've already requested the time off from work and everything. Well it was my birthday on Thursday and he never does anything special for me after all theses years so he promised me that this b day was going to be great !! I. Requested from Friday to Tuesday so we can spend some tone together and it turns out we didn't not Friday he was too tired fine! Sat and Sunday we hung out but comes monday morning he takes me home? So I still have Monday and Tuesday and so does he but we are both at home!! So I get upset that he always does this to me and he swears he loves me and wants to be with me and that I am his everything but when It comes down to it he don't show it at all so I tell him how I feel and he says " here we go again" he thinks me trying to talk to him I am trying tO fight and the last thing I want to do is fight I just want him to understand how I feel well he acts like a child hang up the phone ignores my calls and makes me feel like shit !! Well come the next day he is hi baby good morning all this stupid shit that makes me more Mad because he acts like nothing happened! Then he tells me chill U over react!! Idk what else to do??? Should I leave him and move on after almost 5 years that I been dealing with him?? He is 2 years younger than me .... :/
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (5 September 2012):
His actions make it seem like he is the one cheating on you. Maybe the 5 years seem like a lot to you and you are still trying to make things work, but I don't think he feels the same way anyway and he just wants to do whatever he wants. I think it is time to move on. It is hard for me to see a future, you with him.
The most I can recommend is to try to set him down and calmly explain how you feel, what he is doing wrong and what he needs to do. If he still insists that this is a phase for you then well you should know what to do.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 September 2012):
Hmmmm he's always accusing you of cheating and then does nothing special for you, then turns it around on you when you want to discuss it and then ignores you. Are you sure he's not cheating on you? I know you didn't ask that, but I had a boyfriend like that and he was screwing around.
I think you need to move onto greener pastures. If he's always been like this for 5-years, he's not going to change. Regardless if he is cheating himself or not, I think it's pretty understandable why your father doesn't like him.
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