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female
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anonymous
writes:I was wondering if anyone could help me out. I have a boyfriend who's 20 and i'm 19. We have been together for a year and for my 1 year anniversary gift he got me a gorgeous ring that i really love. He said it was a promise ring to me that we will get married one day. But the problem isn't with him at all; I love him unconditionally, we act like best of friends, i always have to talk or be with him, ive been seeing him more, now that he has a car.He showers me with love and attention and really cares about me. I feel the same way that i would do anything for him and i like the ring that symbolizes us being married. Hes the only guy im attracted to sexually. I dont wanna do it with no one else. The problem is with me I don't know but im afraid that the sparks arn't there for us to make it as a married couple. When we kiss i dont feel anything but i know that i love it and dont want it to end. I want to spend my life with him but im not sure hes the one. This constant doubt and fear keeps bringing me down because im so super happy with him but my feelings arnt sure to say that we r meant to be together. What should i do? Is this normal to be confused about ur feelings after a year together? I never want to lose him in my life cuz hes apart of me. Hes perfect guy for me and takes great care of me. he looks out for me and is so very wonderful.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 You are still very young, so instead of worrying about the future just think about the present. Don't fill your head with worries about the future and if he is the one, instead just enjoy the relationship at the moment. Some people marry there first love and others don't. But you are way to young to be thinking about marriage and asking yourself if he is the one. Therefore just enjoy spending time with him now and take things as they come. It does sound like you do want to be with him and love him very much, plus the honeymoon period in the relationship is over so sometimes it can feel like the spark has gone and it has became routine now. Try and spark things up by doing different things and being adventurous. Do things together that will make you both laugh and most importantly just have fun. Sometimes we all get our doubts that is normal. Just take things day by day.
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