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writes:this is a long one...theres this teacher i have a bit of a crush on at school,hes in his late 20s early 30s. when my cat got run over he was trying to cheer me up and said he would hate it if i cried, so hes really caring, my other friend fancies him as well and she will talk to him some lunchtimes and hes always happy to chat for a bit, we also know he has a girlfriend. but one lesson another friend figured it out that we like him and promised not to tell, but she told someone on our table who told the whole class and carved it into our desk and im worried he might soon find out and things would be really awkward, especially as i may have him for the next two years for triple science, i would hate it if he stopped talking to me because im not looking for a relationship because its wrong and he has a girlfriend and that would be really selfish.so if he does find out what should i do?
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reader, AyameSohma +, writes (25 September 2008):
AyameSohma is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your help everyone,
it hurts so much at the moment but maybe you're right and things will calm down
i really hope so
i won't make a scene and just let things blow over
thanks again
if anything happens i will let you know =]
xxx
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reader, thelittleone!  +, writes (24 September 2008):
 Hello sweetie!
I got the same trouble the last semester
Some of my friends did the same one semester in college
she said something like oh! well, u know Ines has been inlove for awhile time with our italian teacher she has a crush on him .. so he knew about it and he was really strange like he was trying to be nice but he was trying to be really far from me! i did like him to be a relationship .. but he got girlfriend like in ur case .. then i just find a guy and he threw up this idea!
try to find someone else
and don't worry about it!
cuz everybody has a crush on a teache, it is really normal .. but don't try to have anything else with him .. cuz if it doesn't work it's gonna be a really wear situation ..
xoxo
little one
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): No problem Angel Eyes, this is an advice site and it's international and people of all ages can give good opinions. In this case I agree with you, your mum and I no longer go to school, what not sure what really goes on in there. You have more experience than I in this case. Please dear caller, I hope I haven't made things worse. Please take Angel Eyes advice. Ignore it and it should go away. Thanks for the correction babes.
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (23 September 2008):
 I don't mean to contradict DiovanLestat but the help she has given to you might either help quite alot or it will make things alot worse cause my mum told me to say something along the same lines as - Of course I fancy him, he's cute and he has a nice smile.. why wouldn't I fancy him, everybody else dose too.And to be honest it made things ten times worse things just got worse!!And then people were talking behind my back saying that thats the girl that admitted to fancying her science teacher!!But it depends if your school & friends like mine are a bunch of immature imbosiles!!Or very mature and they back off?And like i said the last time if he finds out no matter who from he will become distant for your own good!So don't worry cause thats what my science teacher did and he only became less distant when things calmed down and rumours stopped which sadly for me was when towards the end of the year before he left!:(
Good Luck,i'd love to hear if it works out for you so private e-mail me if you want!:)
xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Sorry babrs, you have some very cruel friends. It hurts when you crush on a teacher, and when people know it is 10 times worse. You will have to be brave, you will have to show courage. When people point out that you fancy him, you will have to learn to laugh and smile and say "Of course I fancy him, he's cute and he has a nice smile.. why wouldn't I fancy him, everybody else dose too." You will have to pretend that it's nothing big and you don't care, and then your friends will back off. Don't do anything with your teacher, just continue to act naturally when he's around. He is at work, he has his job, his girlfriend and his reputation to think about. He has to be cold with you, he has no choice. Teachers can go to jail if they have any romantic feelings for a student. He can't afford to be friendly with you, he must keep his distance if there is any chance that you like him too much. Sorry babes, but this is how things go. Just act normally for a little while and everything will get back to normal and he will feel comfortable talking with you again.
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reader, AyameSohma +, writes (22 September 2008):
AyameSohma is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDamn the situation worsens…
A while ago our school did a production of grease, we were chatting about it and my teacher said he might take his girlfriend to see it, he asked when I was going and I said Saturday, he said oh cool I’ll go on that day then.
The night of the play arrived and I wasn’t expecting to see him, I was with a few friends and he came over to our table and started chatting to me, he wandered off after a while and I went to sit with my friends in the theatre. He sat a few rows behind us with some of the staff –no girlfriend in sight- and one of my friends shouted, “is that the fit science teacher you fancy?” I ducked down and pretended not to notice but the next lesson he completely ignored me even though I didn’t say anything. The summer holidays came and went and now I’m in year 10 studying GCSE Triple science, he is now my physics teacher and I have him or the next two years, he continues to completely blank me even though I have never expressed a desire for a further relationship and have made it clear that it was just a friend messing around, my other friend is convinced he’s ignoring me because he has a crush on me and doesn’t want to risk his job but I don’t think this is true, the only thing I want is for things to go back to how they were and to have a normal friendly relationship again :/
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reader, AyameSohma +, writes (26 June 2008):
AyameSohma is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much everyone, you've been really helpful! i hope things don't get too awkward now :S
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reader, Angels Eyes +, writes (15 June 2008):
Hi!!
I'm in the same position except my teacher found out!!
Don't worry about it.He won't say anything unless YOU act on your feelings which i'm sure you are not stupid enough to do!!Just make sure no-one else finds out.And if it comes to the point where he finds out just don't panic about it don't come across as flirtatous or anything and you'll be fine!!If he does find out he will become distant to stop any rumours spreading and stop any trouble for you from your fellow class mates so don't panic if this happens.E-mail me privately if you want.GOOD LUCK
xxxANGELS EYESxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Don't worry. As long as your not chasing him or embarrasing him, he will understand. If he finds out and wants to talk to you, then tell him the truth. Tell him you like him very much, but you didn't mean anyone to find out. As long as you behave yourself, he will understand and no harm will come to either of you. Good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 June 2008):
Just make it clear that you know it's a school girl crush. Avoid him for a bit and let him know you are embarrassed about it.
If he finds out from someone else he'll probably just back off a little bit and hope you get over it. It's only if you tell him or you are spending time alone together that he would have to tell anyone.
Enjoy your crush and don't worry too much about it. It'll be a bit embarrassing but I bet he had crushes on his teachers too so will understand.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, findingme67 +, writes (11 June 2008):
 I think you should not worry about it. Your teacher will not confront you about your crush unless you try to act on it such as flirting with him. Try to stay your distance and everything should be fine.
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