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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for around 6 months and i've known him for year and ahalf. He literally is my world. Last night he was drinking with his friend, although I don't like him to do so, I said okay cause its st.pats basically and his friend has had rough time and lately my love has been stressed out also. He phoned me to say how much he loves me and stuff and makes those promises that he'll always be there for me no matter what and I made same promises and we do that alot- makes us feel good I guess?But then he says something and I get shy and then he starts asking if I hate him and stuff saying I obviously hate him and etc. Then little while later he says "he s tried of trying" because sometimes I don't know how to express myself and I get quiet trying to think how to say stuff and he takes it that I don't love him as much as he loves me.and we're on verge of breakup. I don't know whats going to happen cause this never happened, and hes the only boy I ever loved. I feel like an idiot but when he said night- I cried for an hour and a half, felt sick tried to go sleep with feeling of anxiety, didnt fall asleep til 2AM, woke up everyhour and had 2 or more dreams of him leaving me.He was always worried id breakup with him, or id get bored of him, and now all of a sudden 'hes tired of trying' I'm scared =((sorry if its long)what should I do, and what do you think will happen?.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): I think you have an unhealthy dependency on this boy....you are not old enough to have a boy be your entire world, and that is not love any way, that is dependency and that is not what true love is about. I think you may break up and that is normal for people in your age group. You need to get more intersted in school and having some good girl friends, hobbies and after school activities to take your mind of this boy....nothing wrong with having friends, but if they become all consuming to the point that you are crying yourself to sleep and waking up all night then there is something wrong with the health of the realtionship, as healthy, good for your relationships do not make you feel that way.
I would try spending some one on one time with your parents or the parent that you need to get closer too, my guess is you are feeling a little disconnected from them and you very much still need their guidance and discipline at this age. Even though you are tying to be a little more independent and develop your own identity, replacing your dependency on them with a dependency on a boy friend is not the way to go....talk to them, tell them how you feel and ask for some much needed affection and quidance from the people who know and love you best.
All the best to you.
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