A
male
age
36-40,
*wizzy
writes:Hey guys, I know this might have been posted a few times but I need your advice ASAP. I'm a 27 yr old IT guy and if I may be specific the only black guy at work so you can imagine the volume of sexual harassment I get from women. Recently I visited one of our branches and a co-worker has been onto me so strong it's a bit scary. She's married as I can see the ring on her hand, she calls me babe or love on a few occasion I thought she was just being her polite self. Lately she wants me to share my music and movie collection to which I said she may not like hip-hop and action movies( these are my preferences, typical male) but now she's offered to take me to lunch and she said it right in front of everyone at work. What's going on here? A little help please.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 August 2015):
 Does your company have an HR department?
Did you get a company handbook?
If yes to both, check out the book first, then go to HR.
Don't accept that these women are harassing you. It's NOT part of your job-description to get hit on by various women at work.
I would also suggest you write down EVERY time this happens, who, where, when. So when you DO go to HR you have something to show for.
Unless you WORK directly under one of the ladies that do this, I would just excuse myself EVERY time they try and start a conversation. Walk away, turn your back and look busy. See if that works, if you find it hard to tell them off.
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reader, Dwizzy +, writes (6 August 2015):
Dwizzy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks ladies. It's a bit hard, and most of the time it comes from the married ones.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 August 2015):
First off, I'm sorry you have to even DEAL with this.
Secondly, I would (If I were you) tell her EVERY single time she calls you babe/love - (I wouldn't use my first name with her either, but my family name, it's less familiar) I am not babe or love, my name is Williams.
You could give her a few names of music you like, but if you have no intentions of sharing your music or movie collection then don't.
Offering to take you to lunch, I'd go with a thanks but no, thanks. I wouldn't even give an excuse. If she asks why, you can say "because I'm not interested".
If the company has a HR (Human Resources) department you can go there and ask what further steps you need to take.
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