A
female
age
36-40,
*earN
writes: i met this guy last year in the month of may , so within few weeks he chucked me out of his life , saying he is not attracted to me . so he contacts me again after 6 months . well before that he was in a relationship with a girl for 7 yrs , things didnt go well , so they broke up .so he contacts me after 6 months, all of sudden while i was having my semester exam . i wasnt so happy neither excited but surely shocked.we went out for a day and he gets physical with me . i was ok with it . coz i did like him at first.so since den onwards till nov 2011 we continued our close friendship nothing serious.so finally in the NOV 2011 all of a sudden i asked him a question do u like me or do u see me more than a friend , he replied me saying I dont see anything more , i just see u as a friend , moreover we belong to different religion , so he didnt want to think anything furthur.so i agreed with him and still maintain the close friendship( physical) with himnow just two weeks back , while i was sitting with him on the couch in a resturantwe were talking about marriage , coz his mom wants him to get married and he cant marry anyone except the same caste girl and blah blah...so finally after sometime he looks at me and says I love u .i was shocked and cudnt look into his faceso i replied thank youhe then said so thats all i get to hear . when i was talking on a serious noteWell than i reminded him about how he told me that he doesnt see me more than a friendso he replied me saying I am a smart girland cut the topic half the way.later when he was dropping me back home , he told me i have mixed feelings and confused about the situtation. I didnt reply him i am sad and confused n hurt , moreover he speaks about his ex gf . And in the process of out friendship , one day he shouted at me saying I love her a lot and the next person whom i will love is my wife. this happned months before he cud say i love u to me .anyways what do i do
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 BearN,
No one can tell you what to do with this guy, it is completely your choice at the end of the day.
I can't say anymore than I have already said. If you want to stay in this situation then go for it. If not, stop letting this person manipulate you for his own purposes.
I hope you see the light one day
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reader, bearN +, writes (10 June 2012):
bearN is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok so well , I did punch him on his face ( ironically) . he got so shocked that he wants to meet me tomorrow and resolve the situation. he has told me I have misunderstood him . And he didnt say anything bad to his friends.
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reader, Anastasia +, writes (10 June 2012):
Soooo let's add that he is talking about your intimate details behind your back...with his friends. That's disgusting and this guy has no respect for you.
Walk away now before you end up getting a bad reputation because he cannot respect your privacy
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reader, bearN +, writes (10 June 2012):
bearN is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAdditional Information _ He has even told his friends that we are in a physical relationship . Cause he is scared what his friends will think about us.
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reader, Anastasia +, writes (9 June 2012):
Hi,
At what point exactly are you going to see that this guy is on games and he doesn't even know what he wants.
He's an idiot. He KNOWS you like him more than a friend because you asked that questions. He's just playing with your feelings and you need to see that.
This guy does not have an ounce of love for you, he just loves himself. I understand your religion and beliefs well and I can tell you that you really need to respect yourself where he is concerned.
Walk away from this with your dignity. He is just going to string you along for a ride that only he will be enjoying at your expense. Forget about this guy and try to find someone who has some sort of idea on how to be a gentleman.
He is sounding like a very awful individual.
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