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writes:i've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now, and at the start of the relationship everything was great he really did make me feel like a princess. But just about 3 months ago things started to change, he went out with his friends a lot more, wouldnt come to see me as much, and when he did i felt as though i would be ignored. Not to long ago he made me delete my myspace profile because he says it's too much of a 'risk' whenever i go out with my friends he always has to tag along, my friend stayed over a couple of weeks ago and he wouldnt let me sleep in the same bed as her because he says it could be classed as 'cheating' even though she's been a very good friend for over 6 years. He acts as though he's jealous whenever i'm with somebody else and not him even if it is a girl. Some nights i don't hear from him for over 6 hours. We talk on msn every night after i've seen him, and he doesn't act himself with me at all it's like he changes suddenly we argue and he says 'plenty more fish in the sea' as though he doesn't care but then he texts me saying he's sorry and that i will be his forever. I used to cry a lot infront of him and he always would say he was sorry and he loves me, but just the other day i cried and it seemed as though he didnt care because straight away he left and went home. i do love him and most people say i need to stand my ground with him but it's difficult because i don't want to lose him, and i don't know the best way to do so, what do i do?
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Please read these wonderful articles that may help you:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/dating-red-flags.html
Your boyfriend's actions sound very fishy, and you have to come into red alert.
This behavior is NOT something someone should do in a loving relationship. And you certainly DON'T deserve to be treated like this. Don't let yourself be trapped into something serious.
I, too, have someone in my life who I don't want to lose...ever, so I understand you perfectly why you can't bring yourself to do anything. But your boyfriend doesn't seem to think the same way, and in my sole opinion, his behavior is kinda scary. There's one thing to be in love, but there's another thing to let yourself be stripped from your human rights for the name of love. The latter, will bring you to nothing more than scars, destruction, and horrible experience.
So listen to your friends and stand your ground. Yes, you may love your boyfriend so very dearly, but his behavior doesn't say the same thing. He's showing the characteristics of a probable abuser, and a sure loser, and if you keep on letting him controling you, you will SURELY end up worse.
So please, take this warning in your mind.
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