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51-59,
*orothea
writes:What should I do about my sister copying me constantly?My sister is 8 years older than me and has always been a bit two faced and nasty to me even though we are fairly close. Without going into too much detail she and her friends always used to say that my style of dressing was stupid, my music taste stupid, that I was a bit thick and that I would end up a very lonely person because I dont know how to treat people, would never get a boyfriend because I was too immature etc etc. I was only young and didnt fight back but just carried on with my life. I went to a top university and got a degree then I changed direction in life and became a psychiatric nurse. I have a partner I live with and she lives alone now as her relationships did not work out. Everything is going well for me and none of her predictions came true. However now she has started to copy me excessively, from hair styles to music taste, choice of pets and even pets names, my interests and everything. She even goes as far as to say that people are always saying we look alike etc (we look very different). Its getting too much and feels weird. How should I deal with this situation? What makes it worse is that we dont live very far from each other. I am 41 and she is 49.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 Live your life, which sounds very successful. Leave her to her life, which sounds rather sad. Nothing she is doing affects you directly, so let her carry on with her illusions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Your sister sees how successful and happy you are, and she wants that for herself. She is probably looking at her life compared to yours, and winds up feeling depressed that she doesn't have what you do. She is copying you in the hopes that it will somehow get her something similar to what you have.
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