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writes: i love my bf loads and loads bt he is leaving to join the army at the end of the month, i dont want him to go but i know its sumfing ive got to let him do, the problem is im going to see him for 3days in the next 3months and im gonna miss him sooooooooo much, i dont want to spend the next 3months crying for him im 18 i should be enjoying my life wot should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (8 May 2006):
 Don't spend the next three months crying for him. He's coming back, he's not dying! He's just going away for a little while.
Take this time to have fun, spend some time with your mates, go out and do stuff, think about what you want out of life. You are right, you are 18 and you should be enjoying your life so enjoy it!
You can miss someone and love them when they are away but still have fun. Crying every day doesn't mean you love them more if you weren't crying.
Your boyfriend sounds very focused and like he knows what he wants, that is fantastic - you should be very proud of him and it sounds like you are being supportive and that is great.
Three months is not long in the grand scheme of life is it? Take this time to enjoy being 18 and if it is meant to be when he comes back you two will be more in love with each other - as they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder!
Don;t cry over him for three months - imagine how bad he would feel knowing that for three months you were lying on your bed crying - he would much rather you catch up with your friends, spend time with your family and have fun.
More practical advice might be to take up a new hobby or sport to help the time go quicker. Enrol in a painting or dancing class or join a netball team. Take up collecting something or cooking. Join a gym and improve your fitness, volunteer at a charity organisation, join a book club, learn a musical instrument.
Three months I know is hard but its not that long and you would be much better off trying to enjoy the time rather than being upset. Get out there and have fun, try something new and the time will fly by.
I'm sure he doesn't want you to be upset the whole time, he would want you to be happy.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): If I adviced you to break up, would you? You love your boyfriend loads, so try and get through this. If, when he's away, if you're finding it too difficult then you know what you have to do to make things better.I hope things work out for you though. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder. The distance might make your relationship stronger. Good luck
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