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36-40,
*ilbittconfused
writes:I recently found an email conversation between my boyfriend and another Guy that was very sexual. He told this Guy where we live and told him to meet him in the 24hr gym to have sex. My boyfriend says he never went but a follow up email from the other Guy asks if he wants to f*** him AGAIN. He also posted ads on Craigslist for other women and watches porn daily. I am very disguisted and don't know if he has cheated. We have been together for 3 years and have a 7 month old son. What do I believe and do?
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reader, boo22  +, writes (10 October 2009):
 Hi there, hope you're ok. He is cheating on you. I'm 100% positive about that. It's not as uncommon as may think. I have a few gay male friends who regularly have sex with straight men who are married with kids or in a relationship with a woman.
There was a family man who lived across the road from me who was having sex with my mate david a few times a week while his wife was at work.
If you can't believe what you see, what can you believe?
You've seen the e mails for yourself.
Of course he'll deny, deny,deny. Don't be swayed by his protestations in the slightest and he'll confess eventually.
You'll have to have the serious heavy discussion about what happens next. Good luck x
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (9 October 2009):
For the most part I have to agree with Topaz. The word again is absoloutely damning. Hard, undeniable evidence no matter which way you slice it. Personally, I think the porn is harmless, byt he is WAY out of line letting strangers from the internet know where you live. It's time to bail, and find yourself a man who will treat you with the respect and honesty you deserve.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (9 October 2009):
I think it's pretty clear as to what you should believe, you saw the email about meeting up with a guy, and then you saw another about wanting to do it again--meaning they've done it before. He's cheating on you with men and if he hasn't already, he's at least trying to also hook up with other women. It is very disgusting and you have every right to feel that way.
For you and your child's safety, you need to leave him. He's letting people know where you live, and that's definitely out of line. If he likes men, then there's nothing you can fulfill for him, you can't grow a penis. He'll hide thing from you in the future and you're always going to feel anxious and wonder if he's up to something. Let him know what you found and that you cannot be in a relationship based on cheating and lies.
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reader, mint +, writes (9 October 2009):
 well you hav the proof which tells you he his cheating...sit him down and tell him what's up and that if he doesnt tell you the truth you and your sin will leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): well i think the follow up email clearly shows whether he cheated dont you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): What do you believe, you believe what you saw with your very own eyes! He is going to cheat on you and with another man if he hasn't already.
Your boyfriend is a closeted gay man, the worst kind, he thinks he is above being gay and doesn't want the lifestyle of a gay man so he is with you.
He is putting your health at risk by having sex with men, not only that but you deserve to be with a man who is not this way and can be committed to you and your child.
Just because he is the biological father doesn't mean that you should ruin your life by staying put. Get out and get out now, no explanation needed.
I am sorry this happened to you, it is disgusting.
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