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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over three months. About a week ago I commented on her facebook and said "hope you are having a good day and looking forward to seeing you again". A couple days later she blocked me. I said it was because she didn't want some other guy or guys to know we dated. She said she needed space and needed counseling for things she is going through (losing her job, moving home and an eating disorder) and that she didn't want to be able to go to my facebook and see what other girls commented on and wonder if I am interested In them and want o date them and then she would think of me miss me and want to see me. She said she needs time and space. I said don't contact me til you unblock me and I will miss you. I waited a couple days and then texted her saying i was being selfish and wanted to talk. We texed through the week and she said things like I miss you and wants to date me still when this is over and said hello daily. Then yesterday I asked her if we are still dating and she said No and she needed time. I told her that friends won't work for me as I want her as my girlfriend and for us to move on and wished her well, here is what I said " being just friends won't work for me as I want to date you still. I am sure u have other guys that want to date you also or that you can get back together with. Hope u get help you need and take the time to do it for yourself but we both should move on for now. Maybe you can text me someday if you wanna date again and we can see where things are." She Said I want to find a girlriend and sorry I am in such a hurry to find one either her or someone else and says I wanna hurry and go find someone else. I haven't texted her back today am she hasn't texted me. What should I do? Is she trying to slowly get rid of me? Should I be her friend through this time and maintain communication? Should I wait a few days or week and see how she is? What should I say? I don't think she wants me to move on!!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (16 August 2010):
 I really dont think its anything you have done, the big clue here is "eating disorder" I suggest you read up on it. I am guessing she is either anorexic or bulimic may be a bit of both but either / or are a serious mental health condition. She may also self harm as an escape method.
With all the best love and will in the world you can give her it may never be enough. She will have constant urges to push you away regular while she has this illness.
I know a lot about this because I was involved with a woman who had anorexia nervosa for a long time, our relationship was on and off regular. I loved her dearly but she couldnt comprehend why anyone would love her.
People with eating disorders can make a recovery and their chances are improved the earlier it is treated, but some dont and the end result is inevitable.
Being in a relationship with a person with an ED is an up and down emotional ride and if your not strong enough to hold on then get off now, no one will ever blame you for that.
I am sorry my answer sounds harsh but I really think that is the issue here with your girlfriend.
If you do decide to stay arround just remember to look after yourself too and get support. Theres a website called "something fishy" google it, it will give you a lot of support and answers.
If you need more information feel free to send me a private message via this site.
Hope it works out for you & take care.
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