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writes:Ok, so i have been dating my bf for a little over 10 months now, not to mention 2 years before breaking up for a year. I know i love him but i am confused to whether i am 'in love with him'. I dont love him as just a friend because he means so much more to me than that and i am also physically attracted to him. So i know its not because i only love him as a friend however when people talk about being in love it seems so much more exciting and thrilling. I never have 'butterflies' in my stomach but could that just be because i have been with him so long that im just too comfortable with him. If you are truely in love will you never question it? I just dont see what more there could be besides caring about him more than anyone in the world and physical attraction yet when people talk about being in love i guess it just seems more magical or something than my relationship with him. What do you guys think? What seperates being in love and just loving a guy to death? thankx =) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): You are in love ^^ Your feeling comfortable with him and you love him as more than a friend. You know that when your with him everything is fine isn't it? Butterflies is for people who truly doubt their love :D But you don't have that. You are in love ;)From: The li'l helper
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (4 September 2007):
 Sometimes people confuse infatuation/attraction with love. In infatuation you may feel those butterflies and feel everything is 'magical', but that is only what opens us up to the POSSIBILITY of love happening. Then when those initial excited feeling die away people often abandon the relationship figuring if it were true love those feelings wouldnt go away. But they do go away and this is natural. They may pop up again now and then. You may feel a surge of joy and love and 'butterflies' when something special happens, but not necessarily on a daily basis. Love is when you can put anothers needs and feelings before your own, when you want only the best for that person, when YOU are a better person because of this person being in your life (you work harder, behave better, etc). Being 'in love' takes it one step further in that you want to be with that person for the rest of your life, above all other people (romantic relationships, not your children, etc) and feel your life would be incomplete without them by your side.
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