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writes:My girlfriend and I decided not to have sex till we're married, its hard though, but we're coping. We do do other things like fingering, muffing, licking and sucking her boobs. But i want to know what more can i do to pleasure her without having sex. Thanx Guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): I'm happy for you that your interest is to pleasure her, (this is very good because most of us men these days are only interested in our own pleasure). However, what you must understand is that pleasure for a woman is attained differently compared to a man. A man will rate SEX as his greatest source of pleasure but a woman will see it differently. She may just want to be seen with you holding hands, going out shopping, being introduced to your friends and family. Generally romance. As for men, we also get pleasure in seeing that a woman is sexually satisfied, but this works best only in marriage. What i'm saying is that even the fingering, and nipple sucking may not bring as much pleasure to her at this moment and in fact, she may be thinking that it give you pleasure instead. The best way to approach this situation is through dialogue, talk to her and find out what is really in her heart. You might be surprised to find out that sex, in whichever form (oral, penetrative etc) may not even appear in her list of wants.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 your pretty much doing everything that you can at the moment, if you are not wanting to have sex then am pretty sure you wont want to use a dildo with her? why not try a vibrator on her clitoris.
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