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writes:i have been dating a guy for about 6 months and been official for about 2 months. i have noticed and he has admitted to me he gets mood swings. for instance, today was a great day. we went to the gym, we later ate lunch and talked on the phone. later in the evening, we started talking again and out of the blue he tells me he is mad and 'annoyed'. i ask him about what and he said he didn't know. i asked him if it was me and he said no. i'm so worried because this isn't the first time he has done it. he gets quiet, moody and sometimes answers rudely back at me if we are on the phone. i have not done anything, i've been the most honest, i've told him everything, helped him with a lot, sex life is great. so i still don't understand WHY he gets moody and takes it out on me. i've told him i don't like it and don't deserve those mood swings, especially if i haven't done anything. :-(. i really need some orientation. i don't know where else to turn. any advice? what might be the cause of his moodswing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I notice you said you were both interested in the gym - is he taking steroids? I had the exact same experience, it was horrible. He was on steroids and the mood swings were terrible, no reason or pattern to them. If you ask him and he dines it look for a squareish jaw line appearing and his shoulders getting really broad. If this is the case he needs to come off them straight away. They are dangerous and competely change a person.
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reader, ~sara~  +, writes (23 December 2009):
Maybe your boyfriend has a phychological disorder such as bi-polar that makes his have mood swings and just hasn't been diagnosed for it. Has he tried getting help from a psychologist? I think that you should probably just get out of the relationship before you get in to deep and move on. The longer you are with him the harder it will be if it doesn't work out and if he keeps treating you bad it won't. I would talk to him about his mood swings and see if he will go to a psychologist. It isn't normal for people to have mood swings constantly. If he will put an effort into figuring out why he has mood swings and try to fix the problem then maybe your relationship can work. If he doesn't want to try I would just leave him now because it is just going to get worse.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (23 December 2009):
 It's not your concern what is causing these mood swings. He is unpredictable and however great your sex life is or how good looking he is, if he has a short fuse, gets angry and is rude to you for no reason...he has a SERIOUS problem.
You have only been together for two months. It's not an eternity and you can get over him quickly and find someone else who isn't so snappy and rude. Often it is a short step from unfounded anger to violence, so beware!
If it were me, I'd run a mile!
Leave it to a psychologist to find out why he's a hot head.
Good luck
Aunty Em x
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