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writes:So I've been around with confusion, what matters to a girl? I've heard size. I've heard Technique. I've heard Stamina. Which one is the one that actually matters, I heard size doesn't matter too much as long as you're around 6 in, Technique I have no clue what thats suppose to mean. And I can see why stamina is Important, but which one is the most important!? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Most girls don't care as much about penetrative sex as oral sex and foreplay and such. Very few women orgasm from penetrative sex (around 20%), we really don't have that many nerve endings in there. Don't worry so much about size and lasting as about your fingers and tongue.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (24 February 2011):
 It depends :)
I think pretty much , if you're able to "hit the right spot" and use your hands, mouth, and be loving and passionate, you're a winner.
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 February 2011):
 I hate to say it, but it depends on the girl. You'll have to get to know each one individually.
As for the meaning of "technique," it's a catchall term for your technical knowledge of her erogenous zones, your ability to stimulate them, and how easy you make it look. Simple example: know where the clitoris is, and how to apply pressure to it in order to get her off.
One thing I've found that works for the clit is to fully enter a girl, then rather than going in and out (although that stimulates her and you in a different way, and is by no means bad), stay all the way in and move your hips in such a way as to apply firm pressure with your pubic bone while rubbing against her. Gives her friction, pressure, and that "filled" feeling they like. The hard part is doing that with your eyes closed, while holding her close and kissing her, and doing it without looking like I'm trying really hard.
However, one thing you've left out on your list (and it's not your fault, most women don't list it for some reason) is the psychological component. For women, sex is better with a man who treats them right - by which I mean one who is dominant, confident, powerful, and masculine. One they look up to. One they aren't sure they can keep to themselves, or even deserve to.
I'm still working on a reliable way to project that attitude, though. It's tough, and hit-or-miss for me at this stage in life. Good luck.
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reader, little_3_eyes +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Size not so much. Stamina is great and so is technique. What really matters is not being selfish in bed & making sure that she gets her orgasm first.
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