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*ngrygirl
writes:Met a man on plenty off fish. We hit it off instantly.. The first couple of days after ourfirst meeting was texting all day - phone calls evenmade time to sneaky a quick kiss.... We have seen each other several times in the short month we've known each other.... He tell me he's crazy about me... All of sudden the starts to seem distant. The last time i saw him was on Friday night. He spent the night and when he left in the morning that was the last time i heard from him. I sent him a text letting him know this kind of behavior was expectable. (This was not the first he has disappeared and not called)...His excuse last time was that he was sick. Ive been to his house, but I'm starting to feel like I'm missing something. I cant believe I could have been played like this.... My instincts are usually really good. I would like to hear what he has to say, but I think he wont call me anymore... Any advice? any thoughts? confused and dazied
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (7 December 2010):
You have sex and the man is distant and no longer seems interested = He had sex with you and does not want to pursue any thing further.
You have sex and the man texts you the next day telling you how amazing you were = man is really in to you and wants to develop a relationship with you.
Take things more carefully next time and put this down to experience. Maybe there were signs there before you slept together that not everything added up but you didn't want to acknowledge them. If there were no signs, next time wait longer before you become intimate.
You'll find a guy wanting the same things as you, whether it's on plentyoffish or through more traditional forms of dating.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (7 December 2010):
 A friend of mine is around your age and she uses plenty of fish, but she has dubbed it "plenty of ass.com". Every man she has gone on a date from there is extremely forward, and ready to hop in the sack on the first date. Some got what they were looking for, others abandoned ship.
This one got what he came for. He left in the morning, didn't bother to stay to bask in the aftermath..then he gives you the "I'm sick" excuse. Why do you want to hear what he has to say? It will be a lie or some excuse, why would you believe anything that came out of the player's mouth?
Your guard just happened to be down. These losers sometimes seep through the cracks and go unnoticed until it's too late. Happens to the best of us. Best thing is to do, is move on and be on your game at all times.
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reader, TimmD +, writes (7 December 2010):
 Plentyoffish.com is one of the top sites used for what guys call "increasing your numbers" when it comes to sexual partners. Now, I'm not saying there are no good, legitimate men on there... but I can tell you there are a number of books out there aimed towards men trying to have one nighters that sight plentyoffish as a top sight to use.
Be very cautious when using that site. And also, having good instincts doesn't always translate to "players" that are well experienced with picking up women online. Don't feel bad or beat yourself up too hard if you mis-judged someone online. It's VERY difficult to judge. Usually, experience is the best way to learn....
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