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writes:Hi, I'll be 17 soon and have never had a boyfriend. Probably because I'm less confident around guys I like and I struggle with expressing my feelings in any situation. I mean I've been somewhat intimate with a guy (without going too far luckily - im still a virgin) but that was a circumstance I'm trying really hard to forget about. The problem that I have is as soon as I start to have feelings for a guy ive been getting to know, I shut down, suppress my feelings and pretend they don't exist when im around him. It means that a guy never realises that I want to be more than friends with him. Since starting college though I've become more confident in showing interest in a guy, but still not enough. So anyway, I dont know when or how I'll meet the guy who will become my first boyfriend, it could be very soon, it might be when i go to university or after. What is your story about when you met your first girlfriend or boyfriend? I'm just curious. It might give me an idea of when or how my time will come :)
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 June 2016):
 To cut a very long, complex story short: we met online at 19 and 20 (first relationship for me and first proper one for him - his only one before was peer pressure), messaged non-stop for a month and a half, video chatted a few times before meeting in person, with my family present, just to verify we were who we said we were. Then we were inseparable, visiting weekly, even though we were and still are long distance (same country, but the travel is very expensive - I don't advise it for young people; it's heartbreaking to not be able to close the distance for years due to money and such things usually limited by age!)Honestly, if I hadn't have met him by accident (he found me), I'd probably have been waiting years to find someone who wanted me with the health issues I have, so I could have been 25+ before my first relationship.Most people your age jump into relationships too soon and end up in sexual situations they think they're ready for, but often aren't. Please don't rush it or put pressure on yourself to have a boyfriend any time soon; that's usually when bad decisions are made because having a boyfriend/girlfriend subconsciously becomes more important than being with someone who's compatible and respectful of your boundaries.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 May 2016):
 You are still very young, I was shy at your age, and I got my first boyfriend when I was 17. We took our time and did not rush in to anything. I guess the thing is we are all different, yet none of us know what is around the corner, so for now enjoy being single and live life to the fullest. Plus the best thing to do is to keep your virginity until you are sure you are with the right man.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (27 May 2016):
 You are still growing up. Take your time. Things will happen when they are supposed to.
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