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anonymous
writes:About a year ago a met this guy and I kind of liked him! We knew each other for a while and I thought he liked me too. We were talking one night on bebo in mail and I had enough of it and decided to tell him so I did and I asked him what about you do you like me and he goes no your ugly and all and it made me really upset.A while after that he sent me mail on bebo saying that he actually liked me and would I go out with him so I said yes, we kept talking on bebo that night and he said he was going to walk me home from school the next day and all and then he goes sarah (not her real name) is going to tell you something really cool so I waited and then I got mail from sarah saying haha it was all a joke you gave us a great laugh. I told my friends and they were going mad over it and so they rang him and he didn't know who she was and she stuck up for me saying that I was really pretty and all. It made me feel a lot better hearing my friend say that and she's one of the popular girls like. I'm over him now, a few months ago I stayed in my granny and grandad's for a week in the summer and her friend had a son my age and she asked me did I want to go swimming with them so I said yes, I didn't know she had a son at this stage so I went anyways and when I got into the car and he was sitting beside me I was really shy and all and we never spoke until after the swimming at my granny and grandad's house!! We got to know each other and then I realised that I really liked him, the only problem is is that I have no contact at all with him and he dosen't live where I live and I really really like him and all and I actually think he likes me aswell but the only problem is is that I'm the only girl in my class that has never had a boyfriend and and it's true because I have seen everyone with a boyfriend. If I had a boyfriend my mam would kill me and my dad is a taxi driver so he would see me around the town so it's not easy, I'm also very very shy around boys I hardly even open my mouth! The problem is I really really want a boyfriend and I don't know why I just do and it's really annoying and loads of boys have seen me on bebo like and it just makes me feel like I'm ugly but when I look in the mirror there's no ugliness at all, I'm not vain or anything, I'm serious even all my friends say it to me and all and what makes me feel even more unattractive is that now I'm serious when I say this really really unattractive boy was like obsessed with me and he's into drugs and I really don't want to go down that road, I just feel that all I can attract is unattractive people and druggies and I don't know what to do about the boy that I met at my granny and grandad's, is ther something wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): theres nothing wrong with you. im going through the same thing. you are beautiful. guys are probably too nervous to say anything or don't think you like them.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 There is nothing wrong with you . You are just having growing up pains.There will be the good , the bad and the ugly.
We experience it through our life all those good, bad and ugly things.They don't come in any order.
About that boy , you can contact your grandma about his friends address and ask for her help.
I think , you should let it go.It is like looking at a pretty flower by the roadside. It is beautiful but we cannot have it because it will die if we take it with us.
If it belongs to us ,it will come to us.If it did not come , then it belongs to others.
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reader, BananaMuffin  +, writes (25 February 2008):
Hi,My best friend was in a very similar a couple of years ago and she is very lovely and attractive. She also had Italian parents and did not feel completely comfortble around boys. She too felt like even if she did have a boyfriend her parents would not allow it even though she was your age. Whilst in our final year of school she got a boyfriend, and then another and now she is in a relationship that she has been in for almost three years! Plus, although she kept her first two boyfriends a secret, she finally introduced this one to her parents and despite being very strict they were very accepting. This is despite her saying before that they would never allow it!The point is that she is very happy now and I'm sure that you will be too in a couple of years. Your life will completely change once you have left school and people will look at you from a new perspective. I know this is not very helpful immediately but all I would say is: Try not to obsess about this boy who you swam with; Keep your chin up - you know that you are an amazing person, so act like it, don't be shy to show this to boys or anyone else; Lastly, hng in there! Not long until you finish school and the world of dating will be your oyster!All the best,BananaMuffin.
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