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writes: Hey Cupids,I'm still a young woman who is truly in to sex with men but I have been single for years and now I want to get into the dating world but not ready to have sex with anymore.I'm ready to travel and just do me but I do feel lonely at times but I just don't want to pick anything I want him to be designed just for me.So I have been waiting for 15 years I put my life on hold to make a life for my kids they are grown and on their own now it back to me.I don't know where to start but I do keep myself busy I work and shop to keep myself looking fabulous but I'm missing companionship can u give me tips?? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2016): Hi, I hate to be blunt, but your question is very hard to understand. Next time you are going to post one, read it over and see if you think other people will understand what you mean before posting!
Good luck.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (18 November 2016):
I think it is understandable that you rather want a relationship instead of sex. Maybe you can do activties with other people like join a group of people out there. Do your favorites by joining people like single people who are out there. It will help you find someone to date. If you like art take a art class, if you like running or jogging. Do a activity on that. If you like reading join a book club. If you like baking do a bake sale. I am so sure love doesn't inspired at all. Alot people areally trying to find that special someone to spend time with and date also. But don't sit at home after u get out of work get out there and connect with single people that don't work with u at all. A person will like u for who you are not how fabulous you look. Beauty is skin deep on the inside not the outside at all. Your kids will understand that you are a young woman still who wants to be in a relationship with another man. Do they both live on their own I'd so then it is understandable that you can date whenever you want to.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (17 November 2016):
Yes, I do seem to be having a language barrier in understanding what it is you are looking for.
Your post comes off a bit like a personal ad. But it seems very much about what You want.
I like that you have a positive attitude. I don't like that you have been uninvolved for 15 years. I'm nervous about the seeming contradictions in your post. For example, I'm into sex with men but I don't want sex, but I'm ready to travel and just do me, but I don't want to pick up something. And I went 15 years without sex.
So you see I just can't even figure out if you like sex or not. Perhaps we should start with a topic that is less of a minefield than sex. So you are looking for male companionship. What are you interested in doing as companions? Travel, Dining, Movies , Theatre, Nature Walks, Sporting events? Try not to get to the finish line first. If you want a real relationship that grows you need to start with shared interests (other than sex). That way the relationship has depth.
Please do join up and continue answering our comments. If you log into an account it gives us a notice every time you reply. Apparently it missed your last feedback.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2016): NO NO NO I'm not saying perfect I'm saying same values likes,and just being human maybe I worded my statement wrong but I understand ??
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 November 2016):
I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you, but I do think you have some unrealistic expectations. Like FA pointed out...
"I want him to be designed just for me." It's not going to happen. Sorry, to burst your bubble. There are people out there who may be a great match for you... but no, no man is designed JUST for you. There is no "perfect dudes aisle 3" Would be great if there were, but no.
And Like BlueIvy pointed out: If you want a platonic relationship WHY not look for a friend/companion and not a BF? At least for now. Or volunteer somewhere.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (17 November 2016):
Ann Writes "I want him to be designed just for me."
You can find those down at the book store or available for download to your kindle reading device. Look in the romance section.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 November 2016):
Singles' holidays. You may not find a date on any, but you could find a travelling buddy or just be less lonely.
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (17 November 2016):
Have you thought about just finding a suitable travelling partner? A male companion without the pressure for anything more. There are a lot of sites that offer this kind of service. Just google 'companionship groups'
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