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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Me and my ex boyfriend broke up 9 months ago after dating for 7 months. We had a really loving and good relationship. During that time, he had decided to go back to school, move back home, and do other things to better himself. After 7 months, he decided he wanted a break so he could spend some time by himself. I was devastated to say the least. Two weeks later, he was dating his ex girlfriend. I was completely heartbroken, said some not so kind words to him, and that was it. He didn't contact me for six months, and had asked to see me and would call me multiple times if I didn't answer. I tried so hard to move on because of how hurt I was. Last weekend, I agreed to see him. I went to his place, and we talked and caught up for a while. He now smokes cigarettes, drinks daily, does drugs, and seemed cold and not how I knew him. We did talk about other people, and I had ironically gone on a date with one of his old friends a few weeks prior. Out of nowhere, we had started hooking up, and he tried to take things way too far. I told him multiple times I didn't want to have sex with him. I then got upset, told him I didn't even get an explanation or apology. He said going out with his ex girlfriend was a mistake, and told me he would have wanted the break either way. He said we would have never broken up if I would have just given him a few days to clear his head. I still didn't have sex with him, and ended up leaving. He gave me a kiss on the cheek goodbye, mentioned that hopefully I can come back again in a few weeks if we're good by then. I'm not sure what that means. He asked me to tell him when I'm free next. He texted me later asking how my drive back was. So I texted him saying I was free Friday, he told me to give him a call. Frustated by him not wanting to put in any effort, I said he should just call me if he's not busy. Never talked to me again after that. I texted him two nights ago telling him that I agree with him, I want things to be good with us too. He told me he'd give me a call the next day. He never called. I'm really not sure what to think at this point, I've never been in a situation like this with an ex boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2010): I think you should just move on and find a new love. This ex of yours may want you but he clearly doesn't put much effort into wanting you, seems like a waste of time to me to go after him.
Think whatever you want to think but don't confuse it with what is actually happening/happened.
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