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writes:First i would like to say 'hai'. I have this male cousin of mine, he s 2 years older than me. He lives far away but he sometimes visit during the holidays. So today he visited and he will be here for the coming two weeks. What worries me s that, he s been acting strange latly. Let me tell you what happened 2night. 2night he came in my bedroom without a warning he just pushed the door hard and came in. He found me lying in bed and i was shocked and i asked him "what are you doing here". He said he just want to see me (that s unusual because he likes being around my brother who s just the same age as he is), so without wasting anytime he layed with me on my bed. I didnt know how to react so i thought i should just let him. Then he asked to see my phone, i gave it to him. He was pressing buttons of my phone, then he started playing the music. He found this song 'will always love you by Whitney Houston'. He sang along with the song, directing the singing to me with his eyes looking at me, touching my chin. I was surprised, he then stopped. And searched for my gallerypictures. He found this text picture message, written 'i love u, i adore u, i need u, i cnt stop thinking about u', he read it louder to me making sure that i listening to what he s saying to me. But i didnt respond, he then said, 'did you hear me?' i respond 'yes'. He asked 'what do u think?' i respond 'you are crazy'. To my surprise he said to me 'kiss me'. I laughed with hesitation, i cant. He then hold my hand with force, and try to push him next to him and kiss him. I somehow escaped out of bed, then he laughed and he said goodnyt sweety, he left and shut the door. I then locked the door. I dont know what to think or what to expect around him anymore. Does he have feelings for me? Please tell me the right way to handle this situation.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 December 2011):
 he tried to force himself on you and that's wrong. You need to tell your mom if he does it again.
First, you tell him, it made me uncomfortable, I did not like it. ... DO NOT DO IT AGAIN and if you do I will tell the adults that you are behaving badly.
and DO IT.
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reader, synchrohobbit +, writes (6 December 2011):
 It definitely sounds as though he has some sort of romantic and sexual feelings for you. Although I don't know about laws and practices for cousins like this in South Africa, I do know it is not okay that he tried to force you to kiss him, and that you felt the need to lock your door for safety. I can see this quickly escalating into something much more violent or inappropriate. If you can tell your parents and have him removed from the house as soon as possible.
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