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What is the purpose of life and why do we have to be tortured so much?

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Question - (3 March 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 3 March 2009)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am applying for grad school. I already went to 9 intervews and I got rejected from all of them, I have 3.9 GPA, and I am really depressed. I can't understand why? I am completely normal, even in the interview they told me I am very inteligent and blablablab, I can't do it any more. I really don't understand the purpose of life? Why we have to be tortured this much? Why life is not fair? I am really getting crazy. I need help,

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009):

There is no overall purpose to life. Life is a blank canvas that you paint on. You create the meaning of your life. You don't start out having meaning.

Just because you went for a dozen interviews, it doesn't mean you're going to be accepted into them. Don't forget the crappy economy we're in. Unless you're someone with a huge amount of talent and a portfolio to show for, you will most likely just be another Sarah Jane, John Smith with textbook credentials.

"Fairness" is subjective. So you didn't get it, but other person did. What if the other person didn't but you did? You simply haven't broaden your search enough.

My friend is a Metals and Materials Engineer. He lived in Vancouver, B.C. (Canada), but flew over to Calgary for an interview and came back the same day. He went over to Regina to work for a couple of years. He eventually settled in Ottawa and has been there for a few years now.

Are you willing to go that distance? He started out making less then 40k a year. He's now more than double that.

I have friends that have gone to school abroad because their schools locally won't accept them. I have a friend who went to school in Missouri because he couldn't get in here at UBC. Work and school - the same mentality. I have friends who worked all over Asia and Europe. Some could not find work in the USA and Canada, so they moved to Shanghai in China. Are you willing to go that far for work or school? Are you willing to spend some to potentially get more?

I've always believed life is completely fair and objective. It's just how willing you are to go for the extra mile that allows you better chances in the world.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009):

Because it's our pain that defines the kind of person we are.

How are we supposed to appreciate things when we don't know what it's like to be without them?

Keep applying to every school you. You'll be accepted into at least one. KEEP applying to all the same ones as well. Eventually they'll get so goddamn sick of getting mail from you that they'll give you a place to shut you up.

Or just save up a shit-load of money and agree to pay ALL tuition upfront. Money talks.

Flynn 24

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009):

Why would you want to go to a school that doesnt want you?

I think there is a flaw in the system that denies people the right to learn who are paying for that right!

Go do something else you love, and let the high and mighty pseudo-intellectuals (aka researchers of regurgitated rhetoric) have the stuffy grad school halls all to themselves!

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