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writes: hey,there's this guy i know who's really fit and that i've been friends with for years. we flirt a lot but have never gone out.neither of us want to be in a serious relationship, i've got too much with college work and he's got his own career to work on.but i do quite fancy him and i think he fancies me back. and i've often thought about just going for a friends with benefits system. as i would imagine it's a relationship without all the work to be romantic. but i'm not clued up on what exactly is the difference between a relationship or a friend with benefits.could someone please tell me?also what tips would you give for trying to propose this to someone? and how to stop it becoming serious?thanks for the advice.anon x
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 November 2011):
 For heaven's sake you don't have to propose it at all. Just invite the cute guy out for a drink and then when he puts the move to you, just let him have his way. When he doesn't call you later or acknowledge you exist the next day, it'll be okay because you are too busy to care about all that stuff anyhow. Then the next time he gets drunk, he'll probably call you at 2:00 AM for some booty and you'll be the lucky lady he soon forgets. It sounds easy to have a FWB but it's really very sticky because you already fancy him a bit, and once this thing goes sexual you will expect more. You'll expect him to fall in love with you and suddenly want more than just sex. You say you're too busy, and you probably are but the drama of this arrangement will end up being worse in the long run. Because men tend to do the FWB easier than we do, it almost always pisses us off in the long run.
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