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writes:I'm asking this totally out of curiosity i do not have a bf or intend on having sex anytime soon. I just want to know what does the pleasure sort of feel like? What does it feel like when your having sex? Is it a warm feeling or what? What sort of pleasure is it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Crisy +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Well, its really hard to explain, you do get really hot and sweaty, and it does hurt for the first time (well it did for me anyway) but my first time i was stupid enough not to use protection then i was panicking for a month until i got my period so i know not to be that stupid again x
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reader, daletom  +, writes (10 January 2008):
Like others said - First, everyone experiences it a little different, and each individual experiences it differently from encounter to encounter. Plus, there's the dual physiological/emotional nature of sex.
There are technical and medical sites that describe what happens in your body during the arousal/orgasm/resolution cycle. I once saw a study that concluded the sensations of orgasm are really about the same for guys and girls. Have you learned what your orgasm is like yet? It's OK if you have, and equally OK if you haven't. (That's a topic for a different thread!) But I can tell you that my orgasms with a partner are different than when I take care of myself. They are actually more intense - stronger contractions - when I pleasure myself, but more physically satisfying with a partner.
In either case I feel an increased focus and awareness in the pelvic (not necessarily genital) region, heightened tactile sensitivity in my torso (really aware of her thighs against my hips, or her breasts against my chest), the "point of no return" feeling marking the start of orgasm (they say that's my internal plumbing reconfiguring itself from the urinary to the reproductive function), the contractions (sometimes mild, or sometimes I'm hardly aware of anything except the spasms in my body), and the floating, lethargic "coming down" period (often punctuated by a few "aftershock" contractions).
I can make myself orgasm much faster than my wife can bring me to climax, so maybe it's like gulping a meal in a few quick bites versus versus sitting down and experiencing each mouthful: you get the same nutrition, but you feel fuller if you take more time to eat.
I could probably describe the physiological experience much more precisely if I tried, and subjected myself to a few controlled experiments. (Does anybody want to fund that research?) But my emotional experience of sex is different - it varies radically!
Sex is almost always a truly shared experience, a gift that two people give to each other. That's true even when my wife says "This time is for you.", because she's giving of her own body for my enjoyment. Of course, it's emotionally (and even physically) more pleasurable when I can similarly please her.
Sometimes it's a profound, mystical expression of two people's love - more spiritual than emotional. Sometimes it communicates that another person - and not just ANY person - cares deeply for you. Sometimes it's a special way to intimately pleasure and comfort somebody who matters to you. Sometimes it reaffirms your lifelong partnership - not only a commitment to the future, but also reinforcing the foundation of past events you've experienced together. And sometimes it's a fun, recreational activity you enjoy with your very best friend.
I don't think it's ever all of these things at once. A few times in your life it will incorporate 2 or 3 of these things into a single experience.
Oh, and don't forget: Sex is how you make babies, and spread STD's. But you probably know that already!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (10 January 2008):
 Well for the answer to this is simple. Sex is different to everyone as everyone is unique =]
As for my personal feeling of sex its not only the feeling that my bodys enjoying it --its very hard to describe but its a very good feeling lol -- and I'm doing something with a guy I love and through doing what we are doing we're expressing our love for eachother adn pleasing eachother.
You asked what sex feels like, theres the biology and psychology side to it. For me each thrust sends a shiver of please up my spine its warm and feels really good.
the emotional side of it is not only are you loving someoen who's loving you (if your having sex with someone your in love with--no offense intended)
Also you hear the sounds he makes and its because of you hes making those signs with gives you that sense of satisfaction =]
I hope this helps, i cant think of another way to describe it =] x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): sex can be so intense but at the same time you guys can be so inlove. ive only had sex 4 times but once he put it in i started to like it. i think because there was so much foreplay he came too fast so once i enjoyed it we kinda had to stop so ive never had an orgasm from sex yet but from being fingered and stuff i have =] sex is fun but dont abuse it. the stress of wondering if your pregnant untill you get your period is unbarable. although i use condoms i still know theres a chance something could go wrong. dont do it with someone unless your inlove because it truly is something special...but also really fun. if u do consider it be really careful. and dont do it all the time so 1..he doesnt start 2 use u and two...its special when it happens.
xo-
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reader, worn the tshirt +, writes (10 January 2008):
 sex is the most wonderful thing on the planet,thats if you take time out to find the right guy whom your comfortable and relaxed with and makes you feel good just by being with him,when sex does take place only then will you be able to talk how it was for you as everybody experiences are diffrent.mine there is no words to describe how i felt its all in what i was feeling
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