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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Back in June 07 me and my ex split up since then we haven't spoken two words to eachother until recently, when i have been going clubbing he has been trying to speak to me and everywhere i am at in the club he is right behind me holding a drink for me. Since we split he has had two failed relationships whilst i am still with my bf of 17 months.I know that we share a past togehter which means that were always going to be a part of eachother but I have moved on since then and tried to make things better and stop blaming myself for what happened. And i think I understand why he has shown up now but he needs to deal with that on his own.Anyway, on xmas eve he left a gift outside my house, it was a bottle of my favourite perfume. I didn't know it was from him until i read the card that was with it and it had something written on it that only he would know.I just don't understand what he is trying to achieve from doing all this, I am very happy with my current bf but i can see myself falling for my ex again when i really don't want to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): im sure you can say it to him in a nice way, ye it'll hurt a little bit but he may well be expecting it, what you said is great as long as he knows you care about him in the long run and you're still there if he needs a friend then you've done your job
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I know he's an ex for a reason but the reason we broke up was because we had to deal with our grief in different ways and that meant us not being together, it wasn't anything like betrayal or stuff like that.
I have no problem in telling him that everything he is trying to do is very nice but I'm not interested, I just don't want i to sound like I am being cold because i actually feel sorry for him, I think he's looking for comfort somewhere and he's chose me because he thinks that I will take him back with open arms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): hes clearly trying to get you back, remind yourself hes an ex for a reason and if your happy with your current boyfriend then just confront your ex tell him your flattered and he'll always mean a lot to you but the past is the past. until you spell it out to him hes not going to stop looking for your attention.
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