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writes: How do you know your in love? I realy do think i love this boy i think about him 24/7 butterflies in stomach when i speak to him and i light up when i see him i cnt seem to eat or sleep and i tlk about him all the time and think about him i still don't know tho if he likes me i tld im and we always flirt with each other sometimes i don't know what to do
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reader, Cindy lou And Babbi +, writes (21 June 2006):
Cindy lou And Babbi is verified as being by the original poster of the question thnx alot everyone u reli helped i will try everything and then try and get the courage and ask im out thnx lv babbi xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (20 June 2006):
 Well at the very least you are crushing for your boy. These feelings are both awesome and awful at the same time. Love can be that way.
The big question that is staring you in the face is: How much do you want to risk to get an answer? What you wouldn't give to be able to read his mind. But you can't read his mind, so how do you "safely" bring up the subject of his feelings toward you in a way that leaves you least vulnerable?
Honey, there is no way to get the answer without communicating with your boy. There is no 100% safe way to get the information you seek because you have to reveal to at least one person that you like him. Risk aside, you should always work on your communication skills.
If it helps, here is what I do when I try to find out where I stand with someone. I pretty much tell that person how I feel about her over a period of time, not all at once. I start small, like pay that person compliments about small things like the way she looks, or what she's wearing. Then, as time goes on, if I'm listening carefully, I'll pick up on things that are important to her and ensure that I do or say things that show I'm paying attention to what's important to her. For example, a friend of mine likes tulips. So on Valentine's Day I bought her a bunch. My wife loves lillies, so I don't even bother with red roses when I buy her flowers.
If your boy is paying attention, he should pick up on these little things you are doing for him. If he reciprocates, then you know that at the very least he is considerate and is also paying attention to what you say and what you do. Over time, based on his actions, you will get some idea about how he feels about you.
By the time you confess your feelings to him, there will still be risk, but it should be much reduced. Just make sure that when you put your energy into doing things for him, he is also doing things for you. This is reciprocity. If he doesn't reciprocate then you can assume that either he does not feel the same way, or that he does feel the same way but is inconsiderate. Either way, lack of reciprocity is a bad thing.
This was a long answer, but I hope it helps. Good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): You know your in love when you get the rush of emotions that you just described. You should tell him... I didn't tell a guy i loved how i felt and now i wish i had... because not knowing will haunt you. Love is such a wonderful thing isn't it?
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 yeah I pretty much think that sums it up! Its a overwhelming feeling and you know you cant be without them! Its even better when they feel the same way!!
So go ask him out, you wont know unless you try!!
Good luck!
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Hi,
Love is what you just decribed it to be!
Go For The Guy!!!!!!
In Love!
Blessed Be,
Phoebe
xx
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