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writes: I apologize for the lenght in advacnce. Hi. I've been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months and about 3 weeks ago he told me he loved me. He told me that I shouldn't feel obligated to say it back and that he didn't want to pressure me into saying just because he felt this way. So I didn't say it back right there because I didn't want to seem like i was just copying him or saying it to not hurt his feelings, although i did tell him that i felt really strongly towards him and that i thought i was falling in love with him. Exactly two weeks later i told him i loved him and he responded by asking if i was sure, which kind of hurt me. He was concerned that i was just saying it because he said it first and that i felt the pressure to say it back. I told him that was not the case and we said goodnight. A couple of days later we were talking and he asked me again if i was sure, and told me it was ok if i really didn't, but again i told him that i really do love him. The problem is...ever since i did tell him i loved him, i have had doubts about whether i really do. He's my first boyfriend (i'm 21) and he is so wonderful and sweet/kind and i love being with him whenever i can. He's on my mind all the time and we talk multiple times a day and im so happy being with him. I feel like i could stay in his arms forever sometimes and often after we've been cuddling or hugging ill sleep in the same shirt because his cologne is still on it and it makes me feel like hes still with me. I don't know if that is love though. Not to sound stupid, but I always thought love would be this amazing, warm fuzzy feeling that you get whenever you share a kiss or say his name? I dont think i have that. I don't want to screw things up here and i can't tell him how im feeling right now because it would be so horrible to him. I'm trying to give myself the benefit of the doubt and believe that i do really love him and that i'm just seriously over analyzing this whole thing. If anyone could give me some insight or advice or their opinions i'd greatly appreciate it. Thanks so much for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, nazzy +, writes (9 October 2006):
hello im nazzy im in love with this boy but i dont no if he loves me he tell me that he like me but dose he love me i want to tell him i love him but it sounds silly and i dont want to make him feel scared what do i do?
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Where is love, does it fall from skies above?
Love is a lot of things. I don't know if anyone can tell you if what you feel is love or not. Only you know how you feel. Love can take many shapes. It can be a knowing smile, a kiss, having someone you can depend on, having someone hold your hand when you're sick. It can be all these things and more, but only you know when you feel it.
Don't pressure yourself into having to say the phrase "I love you". You'll know it when you look in their eyes. . . and they look in yours. But just relax and enjoy it. I know when I am in love, I can't take my eyes off of the person. I am swept away. But as love grows older, it sometimes gets more relaxed and less overwelming. You might become more nurturing and protective. . . but it's still love. I hope this helps.
Good luck!
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