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writes:I am not here to ask if cheating on my spouse is wrong because I know it is...so that said, I am confused about the way the "other man" is feeling. We have known each other for almost a year. I felt the attraction between us almost from the start, but we developed a friendship over this time. A couple of months ago when we were talking, I asked him why he didn't have a girlfriend or hasn't dated in almost a year. His response was that he couldn't talk to me about it. After continuing my interrogation, he leaned over and started kissing me responding with "That's why, I have been falling for a married woman for the last year." I was stunned at first, but then allowed the intimate session to continue. He stopped it because he didn't want anyone to get hurt. So we continued to talk and text throughout the next month until one night he finally opened up telling me he still thinks about me all the time. I was the one who convinced him we could have sex just to have sex and get it over with. So we did. He told me how much he likes me and even blurted out the "love word" accidentally. I told him we can't have feeling like that for each other and as long as we could keep sex separate from our feelings, I would do this. He agreed that he could-- so now a month later we still text almost every day but he never brings up having sex or seeing each other.I am afraid that he doesn't want to be with me again because his feelings got in the way. Is this possible? I am not here to be judged for my actions, but just want an idea as to why he continues to talk to me, but never makes plans to get together. It is almost like he is afraid of it...he also made comments that he felt like he was thinking like the female and I was thinking like the male--
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reader, busy04 +, writes (20 July 2009):
 This is a site for people to give you their opinions to those who ask for it, and if we say something you don't want to hear of course you'll say: I don't want to be judged for my actions.
That said,my take on this: you obviously have let your feelings get in the way despite saying that it's just a sex thing. So why even post this? If you have questions for him...then ask him! Maybe he feels guilty for being with a married woman (at least someone is feeling it). And even if he doesn't want to be with you again, what's wrong with that, according to you: it's just a sex thing.
You need to talk to this man about the situation yourself.
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