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anonymous
writes:Help. My boyfriend of 5 months is constantly adding 'random young girls' on facebook. Since January he has added 100 girls. As soon as he adds them he removes them from his wall, so it looks like he never uses facebook. He never writes on his wall and none of these girls ever write on his wall, and any comments on it is from last year. These girls are people he doesnt know and they are all tarty looking and are about 17-19 year olds and he is 26.He seems addicted to it as he is on there nearly every night. Infact he spends more time on there than he does with me. Sometimes his friends list numbers has gone down so he must remove some of them after a while, then he goes and adds more.When he added me he had 230 friends and now he has 420 so he has added a lot of girls in these last few months. This is how I got to know him and he used to inbox me.I dont know how to approach this subject to him as I dont want him to think Im spying on him but this is really starting to concern me. Im also concerned that he is chatting and inboxing these girls aswell.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Hes obviously selecting them for something. You say they are all alot younger than him and tarty, so it doesnt leave much to the imagination. I would Google key loggers and see how you feel about one of those. Atleast then you will know pretty quickly if you have a serious problem there or not. If you do, you will be able to act. If hes being a gentleman and its just general chatter, you can feel relieved and remove the key logger.
But even if he is behaving. It still doesnt sound right that he would sooner be adding strange girls on FB all evening, than being with you. Start getting busy with your life, go out more ect. Maybe if you arent around so much, he might start worrying more about you and less about the laptop x
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reader, Miss.Me  +, writes (16 March 2011):
 I had a similar experience where the guy hadn't even wanted to add me. He added not only "tarty" looking girls but some low key porn stars as well. I believe guys add these girls to have something to look at and have a little fun in the background. He could be sending them messages in hopes of having some "tarty" conversations, and going through their photos for some "fun."
You said he's not active on FB other than adding these girls. That means he's not using FB to stay in touch with friends or whatever, it's more of a site for him to look at girls' photos.
This doesn't necessarily mean that he could be *physically* cheating, but it could mean he's not totally trustworthy.
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reader, Justtryingtohelp +, writes (16 March 2011):
 It does seem like something fishy is going on, even though it seems quite vague.
You should confront him and demand a proper explanation if he tries to make up some story you find hard to believe.
You don't trust him but to be honest neither would I.
It's not really spying it's something you've noticed, you haven't broke into his account and checked his messages so if he thinks you're spying just say it's an observation that you cannot avoid ignoring anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): Honestly chick it sounds like he may be on a dating site and is adding these girls to prove that he is a real person. I wouldn't be so worried about FB but where he is meeting these
"random" girls. I am speaking from experience. I did meet a guy on a dating website and he told me to look him up on FB....and his page looked alot like your guys. I would ask him about it but be prepared to be single soon!
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reader, aAoa  +, writes (16 March 2011):
i think he is doing what you think he is doing. you should tell him of your concerns. if he doesn't say anything.. leave him..
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