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*idnightsun
writes:hi i am seeing a man, don't what sort of relationship it is but hes not text me in 2 weeks and not seen me in 2 months now,i did text him 2 weeks ago asking whats going on my text to him was " how are you ive not heard off you in weeks how can you say you care if you don't communicate with me etc and take it its over as you also have disappeared " he never replied to me so 6 hours later i sent another saying i guess thats my answer the silence from you, so he replied than saying i have not disappeared and i still want you but ive been in hospital and busy with work etc calling me sweetheart so i text him back saying ok fare enough hope you get better etc thats was the last text i had off him 3rd november so i decided i wont bother initiating the text now what your views on this please
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reader, midnightsun +, writes (30 November 2017):
midnightsun is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2017): Whoa, you’ve been seeing him a year and he’s like this? You wrote you don’t know what type of relationship, and it’s been a year...
Don’t waste your time anymore, just leave and find a guy who actually really wants to be with you, is willing to clearly define the relationship because he loves you, respects you, and wants to be with you. Sorry, but based on actions, this guy does not want any of that.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 November 2017):
 Well, at least he is a generous type. Nevertheless, he is still stringing you along big time. Move on.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 November 2017):
 Even if he was in hospital he still could have sent you a message. Sorry OP but I don't buy his crap at all. He sounds like he is stringing you along. Block him from being able to contact you and move on and be with someone who makes the effort.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (17 November 2017):
In hospital ? -- Busy at work ?...
And the dog ate his homework, too ?...
He can say whatever he wants, OP, but actions speak louder than words and his actions say very clearly that he is not interested and couldn't care less.
If a person knows that, because of health or work, he won't be available for a lengthy period of time, he can always call or text first to let you know , so that you do not have to worry or take it personally.
If he does not , it's because it IS personal, it is exactly you whom he does not want to deal with and have underfoot.
Stop chasing him, stop waiting . This is a lost cause. Dust yourself off and move on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (17 November 2017):
 Just block his number.
If he was in the hospital or OH SO busy with work he could have told you beforehand that he would not be as much in touch because of XYZ.
He is making up excuses because you called him out for not bothering to contact you at all.
STOP wasting your time on a guy who isn't interested. Calling you "cutesy" names means nothing.
Move on and find someone who actually WANTS to spend time with you.
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reader, midnightsun +, writes (17 November 2017):
midnightsun is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbeen seeing him a year now, he dont work in hospital just makes excuses that his been in hospital last time i saw him he spent 300 pound on me than to be too busy
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reader, N91 +, writes (17 November 2017):
 Stop wasting your time.
Words mean nothing. The fact that he hasn't seen you in 2 months is the indication that he can't be bothered. NOBODY on this planet is that busy that they cannot spare 30 minutes for a coffee and a chat.
He's a time waster, move on.
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reader, DancerGirl1984 +, writes (17 November 2017):
Leave it there. He is not interested and it builds up his ego knowing you're hanging around waiting for him.
If someone is interested in you then regardless of work or hospital treatments, they'd make contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2017): How long have you been seeing him?
In any case, I’m sure you’ve heard this, but if a man is interested, you will know he’s interested and he will be sure to make time for you, even if he works at a hospital.
You said you won’t initiate now. But I wouldn’t just stop there, I would move on and find a more interested considerate guy.
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