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male
age
30-35,
*th1991
writes:Hi, I'm 17 and I've been going out with my girlfriend who is 16 for 7 months now and I truely love her. Recently, she has been getting very angry at me for no particular reason and blaming everything on me. Even though I am not doing anything wrong. She told me that she was thinking of breaking up with me because of this, which I told her I don't understand why but she just gets angry at me even more because I don't understand. She always wants to know what I'm doing and consistently tells me that im lying to her when I'm not. But when I ask her what she is doing she reply's with "you don't have to know what im doing every second of the day!" which really confuses me. She told me just yesterday that she still wants to go out but not be sexual at all anymore and that we can only hug and occaisonally kiss. I buy her presents often, I do everything she asks but its still not good enough. What is happening to our relationship? Is it me? Am I over reacting or is it her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): Well instead of blaming her,look in the mirror?
Have a good,hard think and try to put your finger on what you might've done to cause this?
Yes,I know its not an excuse,but it might be other things in her life?
Males are so quick to jump on the "she's cheating" excuse.
Why don't you just calmly,rationally confront her?
Ask her to listen,have your say,let her have hers,listen and understand what she has to say then let her respond,don't interrupt and then nicely ask her to listen to your response.
Communcation is key in relationships,man.
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reader, Tremor +, writes (25 September 2008):
 To hazard a guess, it sounds to me like she's found someone else. Wanting to cut down in the physical side of things may make her feel less guilty about cheating, and it seems like she resents the time she spends with you - time she could be spending with someone else. Her over-reacting and double-standard when you ask what she is doing is also throwing up red flags.
Or perhaps she just isn't into the relationship anymore and is trying to distance herself from you, instead of just coming out and saying it.
Regardless of the reason, though, she's treating you like crap, and I'd agree with cupidguy - the best thing you can do is drop her now.
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