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*agle101
writes:Hey everyone, so I've talked about this teacher before. Last time I ased if there was anything going in between us...of course there isn't, but I'm having to ask again.So my friend who knows this teacher really well too and she recently noticed that when he's talking to me he stands really close often touching my arm. When he does I always look down. She said she's never seen him do that with any other student. I have never really noticed. And the other day our school had a track meet and it weather was horrible. It was rainy and cold. he was there to keep time and I was there to take photos for our year book. every time I would look around for students i'd see him staring at me. I had to stick around the finish line for great shots. when it got really cold he came up behind me and grabbed my arm. He asked what I had under my hoodie, I said just a shirt. Them he offered to give me a long sleeve shirt he had in his truck. I followed him and got his shirt. I went to go put it on and said thanks. He told me to return year the next day. every time I was around my guy friends talking I would look over and he kept looking.When the meet ended I said goodbye and so did he. But the next day in class my friends and I were talking, in his class, and one of them blurted out that I like older men. She was joking because we were talking about my love for Robert Downey Jr. I wasn't thinking at the time but when my friend said that I said yeah your right I do. When I said that, I looked at my teacher and he just looked at me. Since then I've been trying to avoid him. So far that hasn't worked so well. I want to know what's going on with him! HELP!
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reader, eagle101 +, writes (31 March 2011):
eagle101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you for your advice. I'll defiantly reconsider how "close" my relationship is with him. I'll stop talking to him so much and there us a guy my age who is interested in me...so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): Hey girl: sounds like you might be getting yourself into a dangerous situation. By constantly looking to see if he's looking, etc., you're sending him signals that you're interested. The "I like older men" comment didn't help either. If this teacher really does like you more than he should he can lose his job if he acts on those feelings. Even him putting his hand on your arm is inappropriate, in my opinion (and I'm a teacher so I should know). You really need to TELL SOMEONE--your parent, another teacher (preferably female) that you really trust...an adult that you trust. You might feel foolish because you might think you're reading too much into his actions, but you can just say, "You know Mr. X, sometimes he makes me feel uncomfortable. He always stands so close to me and puts his hand on me when we're talking. He also seems to stare at me a lot. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but he's freaking me out!" If one of my students came and told me this about a male teacher, I'd totally understand and make sure she was protected.
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reader, eagle101 +, writes (31 March 2011):
eagle101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you do much. You sort of read my mind by asking "is he interested" I couldn't really find the words at that time. I know he knows I an attracted to older men and we have joked about it. I'm shy at times and when I am he usually gets closer. So I guess I'm in a stuck. But thank you for answering.
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reader, CuppenZeCake +, writes (31 March 2011):
 To me it seems like you feel neither appreciation or concern for this attention. If it bothers you, please see someone! If you have a class with him, it'll be difficult to avoid him :( he really does seem interested, and I suggest not going anywhere with him alone from one on. If you're not interested, you're giving him the wrong signs in your confusion. If your question was: do you think he's interested? Then yes and What should I do? I don't think there's much you CAN do...
Try and act as a normal student and have a normal relationship with him. Always think about saftey :( Don't go anywhere alone with him and tell someone like a few close friends about you concerns or suspicions now.
:) Get back to me if you want!
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