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writes: I've been seeing a guy for about 2 months - we'd developed a friendship before that and had very similar interests and the attraction was mutual and instantaneous on both sides. About a week ago, he had to cancel on me 2 nights in a row and on the Thursday we got together, and went through to a talk, which we both enjoyed thoroughly. We went out for coffee afterwards, and he insisted that he owed me dinner for the two days he'd cancelled, and I told him we'd have to do it another night because he was falling asleep on me. He insisted on walking me to my car, kissed me goodbye and held on tighter than usual. In fact, he was more affectionate and open than usual the whole evening. Sms'd me when he got home and I did the same. The next day I e-mailed him, and he e-mailed me back to say that I must have a great day off while he slaved away - the usual banter that we had.That's the last I heard from him - a week later, and he hasn't responded to my e-mails or sms's. Haven't had a chance to try and call him, except the once and his phone was on voice mailWhat could be causing this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2006): This is a follow up to thank the guys that answered.
He cancelled once because of work and once because of squad training (we'd both forgotten it was Wednesday) and he was falling asleep on me because he'd been on 24 hour call at work for 7 days. So I sent him home.
When he picked me up that evening, he couldn't stop looking at me, and seemed genuinely happy to see me. He didn't want to end the evening either, which struck me as odd but we were always better at goodbyes than hellos *grin*. I don't know if he was feeling guilty, but his e-mails the next day didn't indicate anything.
I guess I'll never know what happened or what changed so suddenly and if it was guilt...well, I hope for his sake it was worth it.
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reader, shania  +, writes (10 June 2006):
 Well it does seem a bit odd?...it could be a number of reasons on why he hasn't been in touch...you say that he acted differently on your last date,that he held you tighter and was more affectionate...was that out of guilt?...The reason i ask this,is because this man might of had a wife at home..or a girlfriend already.He cancelled twice which sounds suspicious and then had the cheek to fall asleep on you.There shouldn't be no reason why he couldn't email you...txt you on your mobile or ring you...no excuse at all.Unless he is ill in hospital...which i doubt very much...i would give him another call and if he still doesn't respond,then i would just forget it....i dont think he is worth the heartache.
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reader, sibaan +, writes (10 June 2006):
 he is guilty or in denial! you choose?
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