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writes: I am 22 years old and i have never had a boyfriend boys just arnt intrested in me im not very attractive and i feel i am destined to be alone forever i am very lonely. i have lots of friends im friendly i have lots of interests and get out loads so i dont know what im doing wrong will i be on my own forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2006): i met my bf last yr, im 24 he's 29. he's the only person iv slept with and the only guy iv loved, i know how you feel cos sometimes you think you'll be waitin forever.
dont lower your standards, relax about it and concentrate on work/school/family/friends....
it will happen and both you and the men you meet will be more mature than the 16-22 yr olds you think uv missed out on.
as dr.psych said, if you'v got lots of friends others have a higher opinion of you than you do of yourself, give yourself a break and take time to appreciate ll the things you do have in your life.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (10 June 2006):
 I was a late bloomer, and didn't have a proper boyfriend until I was 22. If I am honest, I found dating in my 20's just horrible because younger men tend to be out for a bit of fun, a bit immature, jealous etc (...well that is my experience anyway). It wasn't until I reached my 30's that I had figured out what sort of man that I liked/ needed, having kissed quite a few frogs along with way. My point is that you feel you are missing out on this 'great' dating experience when it is not always like that at all (take a look at some of the posts on this board about the heart break!). You say you have lots of friends so you clearly must be a nice person! It is alright to be lonely, but it is not alright to be desperate though. Rather than thinking you will be alone forever, you must think that the right person will come along for you at some stage (lets face it at 22 you have tons of time!). That person should treat you right, and like you and find you attractive just the way you are. You shouldnt grab the first one who comes along. If you don't feel good about yourself then you cannot expect anyone else to like you. Arrogance isnt very nice, but self confidence certainly is attractive! You also say that you get out loads...but maybe you are looking for love in the wrong places. For example, sports and social clubs might give you the opportunity to meet likeminded people and have a chat. In a club, you have to scream to be heard and some clubs develop a reputation of just being places that people go to 'pull' for sex. You won't be on your own forever and as cheesy as it sounds - you will meet the right person when you are not looking. Just relax and try to be yourself!
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