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writes:He hasn't called me in 48 hours almost and I don't know what is going on. Last time I actually spoke with him, he got off the phone after 10 minutes saying his mom wanted to speak to him, and he hasn't called back since even though he said he would. I sent many texts to him yesterday with very few responses. I thought maybe he wanted to break up with me, but he said that he didn't want to break up. In the few messages I did get from him, and please note that these are the ONLY messages I got from him, he said:"No I don't want to break up""I love you""Baby I'm just in a really bad state right now""I'm fine""I will tell you, just give me some time"At that point, I told him that I would wait but also how worried and sad I was and that he really needed to call me. I mean the reasons for him not texting for so long could've ranged from him just not wanting to be with me anymore to someone in his family dying to him being hurt in an accident. I was like really tired, sad, and my eyes were like red because I was so stressed. He has never gone this long without talking to me before. He responded to my message with:"Baby you shouldn't be in that state""Yes I will call tonight"(two hour lapse)"Hey baby""Let's just talk tomorrow""I'm so sleepy""But just know that I'm not hurt or cheating or anything like that. So please don't be sad baby"So now I'm so confused because this is really unusual behavior.....Usually if something is wrong I'm the first person he vents to. If it's a problem that he has with me, he usually runs away from it until I coax it out of him which is why I'm so confused because he just assured me that he loved me, still called me baby, and said he didn't want to break up. He's been a little detached lately through electronic means of communication, but when we are together in person it's absolutely wonderful. And just the day before we had the most amazing date together, which he said he really enjoyed so this is coming from nowhere.....I'm not texting him anymore until late this afternoon if I don't hear from him (it's only 9:00 AM here now), but does anyone have any advice on this?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (30 May 2011):
 Two days isn't so long, actually. I say give him some space and do not text him today. You can't force him to open up to you, and if he cares about you, he'll let you in in his time.
Getting someone to open up is like a flower opening up. You can't force it, you can't rush it, and you can't get impatient with it. Give him some time, and 48 hours isn't time.
All you can really say is - hey, I'm thinking about you, and whatever you're going through, know that I'm here for you when you're ready to talk about it.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 I know this sounds hard, but he obvously wants some space. I go through this with my boyfriend regularly. All you can do is say that you will be there for when he wants to talk, and that you will not contact him until that point.... and stick to it.
If he really wants to be with you he will eventually make the effort.
Good luck babe!
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