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writes:I told My separated husband, I'm pregnant by someone else. He said it didn't matter. We went on meanwhile he was seeing someone else. He needed his car fix and I gave him the money. Later he broke it off and said he wanted the divorce. Constantly he kept textin me claiming he still hurt he thinking bout my daughter and I. For three years we separated he did nothing for his daughter when we was together he did nothing for her he said numerous of times he didn't want her or how I should of had an abortion. Now that he received the divorce papers I filed he wants joint custody six month out the year, he has a drug case and I believe he is doing this to avoid child support. I don't want her around that he already failed his son as a father smokes weed in front of him and told him to drop out of school. I don't want him around my daughter that long or unsupervised. Now that I filed he won't even pay me my money he owes either. What is going on and should I. Get a lawyer.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (8 September 2011):
 Absolutely! The fact that you have an advantage is his problem, not yours. You don't sacrifice that advantage just to be fair. This is not a game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2011): Just got a call this morning saying he doesnt have the money to afford to file the motion to have joint custody. He said he just want her alot. Should I still seek a lawyer to represent me.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (6 September 2011):
Absolutely get a lawyer!Courts tend to favour the mother and the only hope he has of being granted any kind of custody is to prove you are unfit. He's got an uphill battle ahead of him.When custody is settled child support payments are based on a percentage of income and they are retroactive. Whatever he doesn't pay now, he'll have to make up later, whether he chooses to see his daughter or not.Document everything and make sure your own conduct is above reproach. You may be a decent mother, but everyone looks less attractive when placed under a microscope. You're in a much stronger position than he is and he knows it. He just doesn't want you to know it. Don't let him bully you.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (5 September 2011):
 Yes, get a lawyer to help you sort this mess out and get custody of your daughter, child support, and possibly the $ (if you have proof) he owes you.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (5 September 2011):
 although it is always best to sort these things out amicably between you if you can, if he fails to respond positively to your requests then yes, you should definitely get a lawyer
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