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writes:I have decided I'm going to ask the guy I've been seeing for about 2 months now where our relationship is going do you think this is a suitable time too? He has introduced me to some of his family and friends which i take as a good sign but has never introduced me as his gf. Been seeing each other for two month and usualy see him once a week if not more and lets me stay over while he at work. We agreed early on we were seeing each other/ dating but i dont know if he means exclusively or not? what is best to ask are we exclusive or what is happening with us?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 January 2012):
 Don't put it to him that way! Women who ask 'Is this casual?' are unwittingly announcing that they are receptive to being used for sex (whether that is what he is doing or not).
Just tell them that since you've been doing all the things boyfriends and girlfiends do, you assume that is what you are. Then you can ask him if he agrees.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI plan on asking him tomorrow if what we have a casual relationship or something more n then take things from there...I do hope he feels the same
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reader, Ciar +, writes (11 January 2012):
I hit 'send' prematurely...
He doesn't call all the shots. Whether or not you're in an exclusive relationship isn't entirely up to him. It's also up to you. Don't lose sight of that.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (11 January 2012):
Don't ask him what all this means. You tell him what you think it means and ask him if he agrees.
It isn't presumptuous, forward, or clingy. It's a reasonable question. You're not asking because you're desperate for a relationship, but because you want to ensure you invest appropriately. It shows him that you are confident, not afraid to speak up and expect to be treated well. He will have far more respect for that than a wishy washy 'what are we?'.
On the off chance that he doesn't agree, then inform him you enjoy being with him, but you'll be going out on dates with other men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2012): Maybe instead of asking him straight up, you can introduce him to your friends and family as your boyfriend. Maybe that'll drop him some hints. If that doesn't work, then ask him. Don't interrogate him though cuz that just a huge turnoff but just say as calmly as you can "So, do you want people to know about us?" it's as simple as that. And DONT text it. Cuz then u might have to worry about him not responding. Try your best to do it in person. If for some reason u can't, then over the phone can also work.
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