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writes:We are told often throughout life via many venues how to tell if a man truly loves you. If you have been dating for some time (over a year), is him not remembering your favorite color, middle name, etc...a clear sign? is how info is store with a man in love different than how men think in general? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 March 2011):
 I don't think a man who can't remember the details isn't loving. The whole pay attention to detail is more of a female thing ( IMHO). Not that I mean that it's ok for a guy to not remember significant details.
My husband of 13 years, can't remember our anniversary and my birthday.. Some years I'm lucky some years I'm not. Last year I had 2 birthdays because he forgot mine. Let's say it's on the 9th.. he forgot, so on the 19th and the 29th I got "cake & presents".. It honestly doesn't phase me. I know how he grew up and he's been through a couple of TBI's (traumatic Brain injuries) so for my man it's pretty "normal" behavior. On the other hand he will remember little things I can't even recall telling him.
Do YOU remember all the little things about him?
Honestly, for me it comes down to what he can remember. Let say you like white roses and he gives you red roses. At least he got the roses right ;)
Now if he constantly has to ask you your name/middle name or can't remember that you are seriously allergic to seafood..... eh.. iffy.
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Remembering those kind of things is sweet, but not a good indication of how much a man loves you. Some men just pay better attention to the little things then others.
If he shows you that he does know and remember other things you care about, your likes and dislikes, then your relationship is probably ok.
But if you have learned lots of things about him and he still forgets you like cream and sugar in your coffee, or takes you out to a seafood restuarant when you're allergic to shellfish, then you may have a problem.
Some men just have to be taught to pay better attention.
I used to play a game with my husband. I'd cover my ears and say if you can tell me what color earrings I am wearing I'll give you *************.
I'm sure you get the idea.... It is a fun way to get a man to pay more attention, and it works remarkably well.
Much better than nagging and/or complaining ever will.
So maybe you can use the game to play 20 questions with your guy. For every question he gets right about you he gets a reward.
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