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writes:Hi. I might sound insecure asking this, well because I am about the topic. I want to go to the beach with my friends and boyfriend. But the problem is that I am overweight. Not that he is in tip top shape but I am a size 12 tops and size 12/14 bottom. I weight 175 and I'm 5'6 and I know I need to loose weight and I'm currently working out. But what if we go to the beach and he just wants to look at girls more fit and prettier than I am?He tells me he loves my body and there is no one else he rather see naked xD but sometimes you can't help but to look at other people. And if I catch him I would just feel realy shitty about my body bc it's not good enough. I was gonna buy high waisted swim bottoms with a cheetah top and accentuate my best assets which is conviently my rear and boobs. But idk I just feel insecure about it all. How can I stop myself from feeling insecure ? Should I be? I would appriciate opinions especially from guys~
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reader, White Tiger  +, writes (22 May 2012):
Hey!!You do not understand the meanining of boyfriend!As you mentioned above i think he is not deserve to be your boyfriend if he could think about your body or overweight!You need to find someone who attached with you mentaly!!!I think you will able to get it!!!Best Wishes
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2012): First of all, be thankful for what you have. You mentioned your best assets are your boobs and rear. I say go ahead and buy the suit that best accentuates them. Don't wear something that makes you uncomfortable. Going to the beach is supposed to be about having fun, not about comparing yourself to other women. You are already working on losing weight, so just keep working out and you will see the results. In the mean time, try not to worry about who your boyfriend might be looking at. You're right, it's hard not to notice other people. He may glance from time to time, but as long as that's it, then you don't have a problem. And once they have passed him by, they will soon be forgotten. You will be the one to remember them, not him. It's too easy to assume he will be staring at them since you think they look better than you. He said he loves your body, so I would just take the compliment. He wouldn't say it if he didn't mean it. Besides, if he wanted to look at girls more "fit" and "prettier than you", he could easily do that without going to the beach (with all the free internet porn that is available these days).
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 May 2012):
 Go get your bikinni and pat yourself on the back for taking control of your life.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 May 2012):
 No you shouldn't be insecure! I'm sorry to say but everyone looks at other people. And sometimes those people are better looking, but sometimes they're not. We all just look. If your boyfriend tells you he loves your body, he means it or he wouldn't be with you. He's certainly not going to the beach just so he can stare at other women.
The best way to not feel bad about it is to try not to look at him. Don't sit there scrutinizing his face and eyeballs, don't let your head turn his way when a pretty girl walks past because even if he's not checking her out, you're going to think he is if you're doing that. You've just got to ignore what he's doing and try to take your mind off it.
Give each other back rubs, go frolic in the water, build a sand-castle, stay occupied. I'm sure he's not going to the beach just to stare at other women, he's going because he gets to spend time with you. Not just any time with you, but time with you in a bikini.
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