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writes:There's obviously a problem in my relationship if I ended up searching...'what if my boyfriend ignores me on Valentine's Day?'. It takes two to tango and this is true for my situation as well. When I started going out with my boyfriend (we've been together about 10 months now) I wanted to make it clear that I'm not 'needy' or ridiculously 'high maintenance' but I see now that that's probably the worst mistake I could've made. He took the fact that I'm more independent and not demanding as an excuse to never do anything for me. He's never gotten me flowers and even though he got me a card and some chocolates for my birthday, I have a feeling that was only because his birthday happens to be one day before mine and I wrote him a card and bought him a cake. Today is Valentine's Day and I haven't heard from him; not a text, not a call, nothing.I don't really know what to make of that other than he just can't be stuffed or doesn't think I'm special enough to even text me something nice. There's other problems as well, we can't really see each other all the time which is understandable but after about a week of him staying with me or him taking me to his parents house, he drops me back home and doesn't call me or message me until the next time he can come visit me which can be up to a whole week. I need a fresh perspective because I keep making excuses for him and I haven't really brought myself to say anything to him about the way I feel when he does this. What do you think is wrong? Is he simply not interested enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): Please dump him, he is not worth to be your boyfriend, the least he can say or sms is "Happy Valentine" and if he did not do you it then i don't know what to say. or talk to him about your feelings about all this important dates...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): Please dump him, he is not worth to be your boyfriend, the least he can say or sms is "Happy Valentine" and if he did not do you it then i don't know what to say.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (14 February 2011):
 Have you ever communicated these concerns to him? If you haven't, then you need to. Guys will go on like nothing is wrong until they find out otherwise. He probably has no idea you're upset, even if you think you've "hinted" enough.
Talk to him. His response will help you answer those questions.
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