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writes:After nearly 9 yrs alone i met a lovely guy who i dated for abt 7 weeks in total. We lived in the same village him only at weekends as his job was in sheffield. Unfortunately he had to relocate with his job. I spent several weeks wondering whether the relationship was over or not i loved him and he said he still loved me and my daughter. I seemed as if when we did talk he wanted the relationship to work i got upset but was happy we were ok . Apparently I had a little to much alcohol and after deciding we were ok he said i was behaving badly and not treating him very nicely. We broke up tho he still sent general txts and came on the pc . He still is doing this coming on the pc i have stupidly sent txts and e-mails telling him i still love him. What i really need to know is how he feels i suspect he still loves me he has had some bad experiences in the past and is emotionally scarred i just love him so so much . Any advice please ??
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reader, Happivibes +, writes (20 August 2008):
 I think perhaps he feels a little overwhelmed, clearly he is still keeping in touch because he wants to, no one is holding a gun to his head!
Men, need to feel in control, emotions can be way scary to them, I suggest that having given it the whole emotional hit you step back a little, do not refer to your relationship in labelled terms(it scares them) but talk genaerally about how well you are, how good life is, what you have been doing, have planned etc, let him SEE that you are getting on with your life,and if he wants to be part of it he had better make haste!
Also be honest about things..were you drunk? did you get over emotional? if so just say sorry... hey we are all only human , mistakes happen.
good luck and sending happy vibes to help you on your way.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): I think you need to just ask him how he feels and where he wants the relationship to go, he obviously knows that you still love him and want to be with him. If he feels the same way, than work on a plan to be together. If unfourtunately he doesnt feel the same way than maybe it would be best to let him go and just be friends. Move on if thats the case and concentrate on making a better life for you and your daughter.
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