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writes:ok, so my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 5 months..but we were best friends before that..and we have known eachother for like..3 or 4 years. and he is bisexual...lol i know.but i love him sooooo much, and i know that he loves me as well. i am straight. and he does this thing, where he flirts with other girls, all the time! not in front of me depending on who the girl is...but he also has a friend thats a guy..and he is also bisexual..he is very good-looking, and my boyfriend thinks its okay to flirt with him or any other bi guy whenever he wants...just like he does with girls...but the thing is:he wont have sex or stuff like that with the guys or girls ofcoarse..but he also happens to think that doing stuff like kissing, making out and groping the guys is okay..like i dont mind..but ive told him in a way i dont feel good when he does.he doesnt consider it as cheating. but he wont go that far with girls..bcuz that is what he thinks is cheating..and when i try to talk to him about it..he gets very upset, mostly depressed, or something related, and he would ask me why i would think that. and i tell him, and later in the conversation he would always tell me that he is not cheating on me. he never would..he sounds so convincing..plus he is emo. so if i get him depressed enough, he will cut him self..and i hate it. it makes me feel bad like its my fault..yes i know this is all very complicated and long..but i just dont know what to do an need some help, or advice.:( how do i get him to not do things with guys, or flirt with girls like he does..on internet..phone..and in person? and i dont want him to break up with me, but if i almost break up wit him, tell him im having thoughts bout it..or we get to deep in "the conversation" he will suggest we break up or " take a break" or something like that. ugh im so pissed. if u get confused or need to know morre about my relationship..just ask..email me or somthing...im sorry for all of this but please tell me sometthing i would find useful..i need other peoples suggestions.thanks.
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reader, victoressa97 +, writes (24 August 2010):
victoressa97 is verified as being by the original poster of the question mm......i agree. thanks. i will update with more news..
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 August 2010):
 But the thing is he's in a relationship with you and going around kissing other dudes/girls bisexual or not that's still cheating. Tell he can other cut the crap or you're going to leave.
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reader, victoressa97 +, writes (22 August 2010):
victoressa97 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell yes thank you tennisstar..buut its just that i think that he gets like a jolt out of guys..its new and exciting..u no what i mean when i say that..and i jus visited him today..its very obvious he is into girls..definitelyy..lol. but ya no what? damnnim startintathink that he thinks it hot when he iswithotherguys.he sumtimes tells me stories bout it...and then he tells me that his friend (the 1 i was talkin bout b4)is gunnahangout wit him tomorrow..and hes telling me that they r prolly gunna flirt and kiss,,mayb even makeout. he was even (hopefully kidding) abotu videotaping it!! he is not screwed or messed up...lmao..i swear..but it just...yea..and ive tried to tell him i dont like it when hes wit otherguys...or flirtin wit other girrls.ugh..iddk wwhat to do about it. i hate jealousy..haha.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
First problem your boyfriend is bisexual, you knew it from the get go but now he wants to have the guy aspect of it too. Personally I don't believe in bisexuality you either lean more towards one or the other there is no in between. In his case, he's more into guys..sorry to say. If he's exclusively in a relationship with you then groping, kissing, making out with other guys is cheating. Cutting is a difficult topic I had a friend who did that but I got onto him so he would't do it again. My suggestion is to tell him you can't be caught in this love triangle with other males, it's just not fair to you that he's indecisive and right now he's picking the males over you, better off as friends, maybe a fag hag one day. I'm one to many.
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