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writes: Does anyone else struggle in social settings? I'm a young mum and my 3 year old was invited to her friends Birthday party. We went along and I seen none of the Mums I speak to from the Nursery were there, and I was the youngest Mum. I tried being smiley and friendly and made an effort to speak to the other Mums but not one of them were interested in speaking to me. I point out the age gap i am 24 and the rest were 40+ because the host offered the others a glass of wine and then said to me only there is juice on the table. If to highlight or embarrass me as the rest smirked. The only other convo I got was,how do you find the time to do you hair and make-up it always looks good, and before I could reply another said, she prob leaves the kid infront of the TV all day. Which isn't true, as I also work! I left with my daughter not long after and cried to my partner as soon as I got home. My daughter enjoyed herself which I'm glad about. I think I was just invited so they had someone to mock. I'm the problem or my social skills as they all got on, it was just me who they seemed not to like. I hadn't even spoke to half of them till the party. I spoke to my own Mum friends today and they all agree that it was mean to do that. I don't understand what have I done to these women? I wouldn't dream of being rude back to women the same age as my own Mother so I didn't stand up for myself or say anything to them today. Should I? Or is it me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 I don't think it was your social skills that lacked that day.
WOW, I agree WHAT a bunch of COWS! Wall to wall COWS!
You have done nothing wrong to those women. My guess is they are ALL a bit jealous of you age and looks. Some women just don't age with grace. Not in look or manners.
I would in the future avoid those petty pathetic women. I would look for play groups for your daughter and see what kind of mom's there are out there.
I do think standing up for yourself is a good thing IF YOU CAN handle it. If you can't IN THE MOMENT then you can't. But I'd practice to LOOK whomever is talking smack RIGHT in the eyes from now on. Most people who can toss out snide remarks can't handle being "seen" doing it.
You are fine, mom. I bet you do a great job. AGE has nothing to do with how great a mom you are, so don't let those old twats make you think you are not good at being a mom or a woman.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 Bunch of cows. You have done nothing probably other than remind them of just how taut they were once. With age, not always comes wisdom just bitchyness. If there is a next time a simple 'No...I dont think so" and leave it at that.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (19 February 2016):
 What a bunch of dirty rotten stinking old biddies!
I am glad your daughter enjoyed herself and didn't pick up on the vibes of the day.
Who knows why this nest of poisonous vipers acted the way they did, but my advise (and I am older than your mum) is to avoid them, and if anybody notices and asks why tell the truth, ie, its best to keep away from poisonous snakes, and that you don't need any of their nastiness in your life.
Have a look around and see if there are any play groups or other activities where the mums might be a bit more friendly.... not necessarily younger, just friendlier.
Try not to let their woeful behaviour towards a guest impact you too much, the hostess was a bitch to allow a guest in her house to be treated like that.
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