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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok well cut a long story short, me and my serious boyfriend split up just under 5months ago (his choice i was heartbroken). He did some bad things to me since we split e.g got with (snogged) one of my ex best mates and sent me a photo of it, posted a video on youtube of him and his mates burning a photo of me and him and finally, was also getting his mates to call me names because i still had his laptop at my home as he hadn't come over to collect it so i had 'stolen' it because of this apprently. The thing is, before all of this happened we were mutual with eachother, we still spoke on messenger and stuff but i said to him i was going to delete everythng i had of him (email, messenger, number etc) because i wouldn't be able to move on otherwise plus he was being a 'man wh*re' Anyways, this all happened a good 2 months ago. Since then, he has added me on messenger on a new email address and apologised for everything he did, i was just being civil with him. Then 2 weeks after that, i happened to check one of my email inbox's that we happened to always email eachother on, and i had an email off him saying that he had checked his email inbox (he obviously hadn't been on it for a long while) and thought he would apologise. ?? hmm. Then a couple of days later he came online on his new email address and said happy birthday to me for the other day and started making ALOT of conversation. I was just being civil with him, keeping conversation short, then he invited me to his friends party. I knew he had a new girlfriend so i said no as she would be there and its not fair on ever of us. He replied with just come as friends! we need a chat! In the end i just said no and he was talking the way we used to talk e.g. different phrases and things. He also said his mum wanted to see me as i used to always be round his house and i was good friends with his mum. I just can't get over him, he was so special to me, he was my best friend and my soul mate, i think about him alot although he doesn;t know this. What do you think he is trying to tell me? Do you think hes fully over me? Or just playing with my head? Or maybe he just doesn't want me to move on and it's all a joke to him? Just thought i'd add that our relationship was genuine, he was in head over heels in love with me and we had a really good connectiion with eachother, i think it just got to the point where it was like a 'marriage'
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reader, LizzieLowe +, writes (27 January 2008):
Be brave and walk away. Your ex wants to have his cake and eat it and obviously dreads the thought of YOU moving on with your life and forgetting he existed. He obviously has insecurities and needs to be loved and wanted and that's why he plays these games...he and his friends are childish and it's better that you walk away and find someone 'normal' who won't mess you around. I know it will be really really hard as you probably have alot of feelings there and it's hard to break away from that but in all honesty....if you walk away from it all now, you will speare yourself alot of heartache in the end. If he loved you he wouldn't have slept around.I hope that deep down you know this and that you know that the relationship wouldn't have lasted....so why waste more precious time?? Change your email account and move on...get a new look, go shopping, go out with your friends and find a guy more deserving of you....not one that wants to do what he wants and have you waiting there for him when he is ready.....he's a selfish guy who needs to grow up and stop playing with people.....don't allow him to get to you...otherwise he ends up smiling, knowing he is winning!!
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reader, honkifuluvnicole  +, writes (27 January 2008):
 I am in the exact same position as you.
I know how hard it is.
So I'm sorry that you are in that position.
I wish I could offer you advice, all I can really say is....stay strong.
Don't become vulnerable and stay in a power position with him.
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