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writes:My online ex dumped me a few months back and we have being comunicating now and again. We exchange e-mails on a daily basis. A few days ago, we talked, like properly and it felt like we were "us" again. Thing is I know he's over me and I know that i'm over him but it still hurts at time.I've rearanged my room and got rid of everything of his but i still think about him. I still over analyse his messages.I've also blocked him recently.HELP ME!its drving me crazy.what else is there to do to help me get over him?! I've already talked my feelings over but it still doesn't help
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): It takes time to get over someone you care about.
Trust me I tend to learn things the hard way.
Keep away from him, get your mind occupied on something else it would be good for you. Hang out with friends more go out have fun meet new people. Trust me theres gonna be someone better out there for you. And when you really have gotten over it im pretty sure you can be friends with him again.
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 Hi, Emotions cannot always be controlled, just as we fall in love unexpectedly, if you have been close to a person, and you feel you really care, then it's hard to just let go. But time will take care of it, don't try to suppress the feelings, you have to let the wounds heal, and the wound sometimes only heals, if it is raw for a while. So let time take it. If you need to, be your own therapist, get a notebook, and write down your feelings, whenever they show up, let the writings be a cartharsis, just put it all down on paper. Eventually you will stop writing, and you will have passed through that phase of your life. You cna try to busy yourself, go to nice places where you will find people who might interest you. Take a class, where a lot of guys will be attending, that would be fun, there will be so many fish in the sea,that you will be totally distracted. Good luck, you will survive. There is a self-help article, which is online, either at www.socyberty.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137 or www.authspot.com/writers/quiet+voice.8137, the title is "Survival". Read it, if you would, hopefully it will help you through this. In time, you will be where you want to be, over it. Take care.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (15 June 2008):
 It takes time to get over these things and sometimes there is not really a lot you can do as the feelings just come out of the blue and make you feel bad all over again.
The best thing to do is to distract yourself, keep busy, find something new to do, make some new friends but it will still take time.
The only other suggestion is when you do think about him, instead of letting it make you feel sad think to yourself, yes it hurts but it is for the best and it was good whilst it lasted, almost like your thinking of it in a positive way rather than a negative one if that makes sense, it might not work but its worth a shot. Good luck x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 June 2008):
Talking about things constantly can just keep you stuck in the same swirl of loving him and wanting him and being hurt about it.
My advice is to stop talking about it. It's old news. It's boring!
You've blocked him and cut contact which is a great thing to do. Now you just need to cut him out of your head by waking up tomorrow and accepting he is now a figure from your past... He's in the same box at the back of your brain as that little boy who pulled your hair in school.
Distract yourself, go out, get a new hobby, go on holiday!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Get out more, i had this problem. Try and find a boyfriend you don't meet virtually. Go out with your friend alot, try and only allow yourself schedule times on the computer, and don't speak to him, let him speak to you.
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