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female
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36-40,
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writes:Hi,I normally don't write about things like this, but I am confused. I have been friends with this guy for almost 6 years. I have loved him since I have known him. I couldn't or wouldn't act on my feelings for him for two reasons. One, I was dating someone at the time and wouldn't ever cheat on anyone. Two, he too started dating someone. This past year he and I have become really close. He has been my best friend for 6 years and we both have had feelings for one another and have been opened up about those feelings for almost a month now. Here is the problem. I broke up with my ex a year ago.My friend and I have been really close since, but kept our distance seeing as though he was still dating his now ex-girlfriend. She sort of knows me because we went to school together. About a week ago, he and I kissed for the first time after he told me he was breaking up with his girlfriend. He and I continued to see one another since and yesterday he just broke up with her. He took it harder than I thought and now is acting very strange around me. I mean, he has kissed me many times and was acting like he wanted to date me, but yesterday and today he has been very distant. I have never been in love with two people at once, so I don't know how that feels. I would imagine it would be awful. But its like he has all these new feelings for me, but getting over his feelings for her. I feel very awkward and I am afraid to talk to him about he and I. I know they just broke up yesterday and I know thats hard. On a website he put today that he was single, but I was under the impression that he was dating me...so I am a little worried. He was talking to me on the phone tonight about taking a vacation with me and stuff and acted like everything is ok. So.... what should I think? Is he going to use me? What does he want from me? Does he need time to figure stuff out and get over her? Please...Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): This guy definitely needs some time. No matter his feelings for you, he had to have some for her too. You can't just stop thinking sbout someone immediately. Give it a few days. Don't be afraid to talk to him about it. Ask questions. It's your right to know, right?
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