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writes:I'm not sure where I am right now in my life, I just finally finished a 6 month long breakup, that ended up being more complicated than I ever wanted it to be, and just today she finally gave me closure on ending it for good..My ex and I weren't allowed to see each other, her mother kept her away from me, it all really started about 6 months ago, we were in a healthy relationship and her mother decided to butt in and say that I wasn't right for her.. So she split me and my ex up, screaming at my ex if she ever tried talking to me, and calling the police if I ever tried talking to her.. It was in all honesty, ridiculous.. She's 15, almost 16, and I have just turned 18.. She would have to wait 2-3 years to get out of her mothers hold for good and be able to see me, and just today she decided that she wouldn't be able to wait that long to be able to see me again.. Her mother will still let her date anyone else, druggies, alcoholics, and overall idiots (I know this because she let my ex date someone she knew was a druggie just a few months ago), but won't let her date me, because she has a grudge against me, she hates me and won't let up on it, mainly because I stood up to her at one point last year.. She didn't like that, so now we're forced apart.. I'm not a bad guy, I never once abused her, I treated her right, I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't smoke.. I hang out with decent friends, and I'm a polite guy to people who are nice to me back..Bottom line is.. we want to be together.. I want to be with her.. and she says she wants to be with me.. but she won't wait the 2-3 years. She said to me that she can't do it, and that she's going to move on.. It's not the biggest deal in the world, I've seen and heard of a lot worse.. I know. I just don't know what to do.. I don't know who to ask, in about 12 friends I've asked about 10 of them said "forget her! she's a bitch!" and I'm kind of tired of that answer... How do I get over her? Does she truly want to be with me, even though she can't wait those 3 years?...I mean.. if she really did love me, wouldn't she wait those few years to be with me?... I told her I would... It just doesn't add up.. If someone really thought they found the love of their life they'd wait for them for a couple of years if they had to.. wouldn't they?Sorry for the long read.. just got a lot on my mind right now..
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reader, L VIC  +, writes (27 September 2008):
man do what you best buddys are telling you forget about her she even told you she wont wait that long mostlikely she dont love you she likes you probably but move on man ther is more fish in the tank you deserve better man belevme guys like us because im just like you get good girls all the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): TO tell you the truth coming from 18 year old girl who is is a long term relationship, And has been there before. Sorry to be so blunt, She doesn't love you. You are right if she truly with all her heart loved you then she would wait. She may think that she loves or she may know that she doesn't and thats way she won't wait. I am sorry. But you need to take time and try to move on.
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